I want her back?

Question

3 weeks ago my ex girlfriend ( she was my girlfriend back then) said she loved me more than anything in the world, and that she could never live without me, well after about 2 weeks from her saying that, She broke up with me, and dated someone else for two days, Then that week she said she still loved me, then we argued.. did not talk for a week, she texted me saying she wanted to see me, first two days of her asking I blew her off, I was upset. Then I finally came to see her, she said she had sort of missed me. That night we ended up making out, next day we went shopping together when I brought it up she was very embaressed, before this break up we were together for 3 years, last summer she had broken up with me, and was pretty much acting the same way she is now, She has bi polar, and last summer it seemed as if she were manic, this summer it seems that way too, but she says that she is not manic. She only wants to be friends with me and wants to be with someone else.

Last summer we broke up because of the same reasons she gave too, that is why I think she is Manic right now, however she says she is not she said things change. All weekend she would not let me hold her or kiss her but she was extremely flirty with me, and last night we ended up kissing again. I would really like her back someday, I love her with all my heart, I do realize right now I just should be her friend but I still want to keep hope that I may be with her again. I needed to clear my head and make sure I only acted as a friend for now, so Im leaving to Canada for 10 days tomorrow, to stay with a friend. When I told her this first she was angry that I did not take her with me, then she hugged me for a long time today, and tonight when I took her home she seemed unaffected by it.

I dont want to cut off things with her, I've known her for 12 years

Answer 1

She is really unstable...

She may not even be sure of what she wants. You are definitely on the right track of figuring things out for yourself if you know that you should just be a friend to her at this point in time.

Be careful that you don't end up as a safety net for her. She'll know that you'll always be waiting for her and she might use that to her advantage. I'm not saying she's that kind of person, but it happens inadvertently sometimes.

Answer 2

Wow she sounds wierd! She definately has a problem! I mean how can someone have so many personality changes in such a short period of time! I think that she wants to be with you but wants to be free to day as she pleases as well! But you cant do the sam! she would most probably flip if you did to her what she is doing to you! She seems very unpredictable and simply strange! U cant ever have a relationship with someone like that cause she will say one thing now and change her mind the next! She is not gonna be good for you! Rather keep ur distance from her and move on! U will really be happier without her! And by the way y should she get to go with you to canada if she isnt ur gf anymore! She brought this upon herself! She is using u!

Answer 3

That's a tough situation! But it sounds like she doesn't care for you as you do for her. The longer you remain in that situation, the more hurtful it will be for you. You deserve someone who loves you back in the same way and doesn't play with your heart, EVEN if she is doing it without being aware. However, it sounds like she might be keeping you around as a safety. While you are around, she knows there is someone who loves her and she can be confident that if she doesn't find someone new or better (in HER view), she always has that safety net.

I don't know if she is manic, or if her bipolar disorder is affecting her behavior BUT if she will not admit she has a problem, she will not change. And if she doesn't change, she is going to keep stringing you along.

For your own happiness, I would completely end things with her. If she really realizes she loves you, she will come back and prove to you she loves you. But without ending things clearly, you are ruining your chance to meet someone who WILL love you as you deserve!

Answer 4

She keeps breaking up with you so she can see other people and still feel okay doing it because technically, she is not cheating. If you think she's manic, try to get her help ASAP. Do NOT listen to her if she says that she is not manic. She wouldn't know the difference. People with mental illness cannot recognize when they aren't "right". Good Luck friend.

Answer 5

You really need to give her the complete silent treatment for at least a week. This way if she works out that you are not some toy she can use and abuse then she might wake up to herself. And then you will know by what she does where you stand. Be strong.

Answer 6

honestly i say you find a better girl..i think you might have better potential taking care of a girl who is more stable she seems really unstable at the moment. As well as in general she doesnt seem to have her **** together and honestly it might just be more of a pain for you. She seems to use love to easily and if so then i dont think shes worht it man find better good luck!

Answer 7

why did you want her back if she had flurted with u . u should tell that u also like her and dont want 2 loose her . even then she didnt wnt 2 love u,then u should start ignore her ,then only she will feel ur value try this i have also tried and get my (shona) back ok bye

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Answer 8

If she really is bipolar, she needs medication.

You should not put yourself on that merry-go-round. Suggest she get help.