If death is unavoidable fear and sadness is wast of time why are you surprised when some one dies.?

Answer 1

You are used to a loved one being near and its extremely sad.

Answer 2

Well, it because most people can't handle the truth. They hate the truth. They won't accept the truth. As a smoker I have been told by many people that I am going to die, and my response is always the same, "and your not going to die?"

Saw a news clip the other day about 6 siblings, all in their 90's, 5 out 6 of them have smoked all their lives. I wonder how many people born in the same year as them, and never smoked are long dead. Probably most of them.

Humans grow until they are about 15 to 18 years old, when the growing is over, the dying part begins. And some of the most intelligent people in the world can not accept that simple truth. The only difference is how fast or slow the dying part is. Some are old at 50. Some aren't old until 70.

Btw, I am 59 and I am in excellent health. Many people that were born in the same year that I was, 1947, have long ago died. Some were smokers, and some weren't.

Answer 3

Shango I meet you in a restaurant, we have a wonderful chat and we feel connected, I go to the loo and leave you in the table and when I come back you are gone and you did not leave me a note or telephone number. My heart will be painful.

the same with death. The sadness comes as the reality hits that the person who died will not rise and talk to you. You miss the moments that you shared together and that leaves sadness. irrespective of the fact that that person will rise again in the last days the pain will be there because you are not sure when will that last day be

Answer 4

Because the news of someone's death makes us assess our own mortality.

When we grieve, none of us really imagines what it must be like for that person now. Instead we always think about our past experiences with that person and wonder how WE will lead the rest of our lives without them.

Even families of cancer patients who know death is inevitable will cry at the very moment the patient dies..
(Even though the person was slowly dying for months before that)..

So no matter how we try to rationalise it, death is simply something that will always come to knock us off our feet.

Answer 5

Love.
We want our loved ones to always be near... at least only a phone call away.

Who ever said that fear and sadness are a waste of time?
I have never ever heard that. Ever.

Fear is a protector at times... it makes us cautious and protects us from doing really stupid things... sometimes.

And sadness allows us to go through the grieving process when a loved one dies.

It's not "surprise" so much as it is grief and missing the nearness of that loved one.

This is why I want all my loved ones to know Jesus... so that death doesn't have to be a permanent good-bye.

Answer 6

Yest it's unavoidable. Sometimes it happens a bit too soon.
I agree, It is a waste of time to fear death.

Answer 7

I am not 'surprised' but certainly sad. Once passed away that person will never be with us again save for in memory. A truly unique human being has left us, with ties to other human beings like me.

You forget we are social animals and as such we create bonds between us and others. Breaking those hurts.

Answer 8

Death is unavoidable.
Fear of death is necessary as a drive for survival.
Sorrow when someone dies is normal.
Surprise of death occurs when someone dies suddenly, unexpected, as in a car accident, or a soldier at war.

Answer 9

That's a good question. I think it's always difficult, even unbelievable when someone dies, no matter how well prepared you are for it. We deny death, that's how we live.

Answer 10

Whose surprised? Death is inevitable, we all have to do it, the difference is where you want to go when you die.To have etenal life in heaven or eternal life in hell.