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How do you help a family member who hoards compulsively? My father's house is a risk to his health and safety. The volume of mess impedes movement around the house as well as the rooms' function (ie- he can't cook in the kitchen because there's 5 feet of clothes piled upon the stove, or shower in the bathroom because there's stuff stored in the tub, etc). But what really worries me is the health risks that I just know are lurking in every crevice: animal waste, mold, mildew, rotting food, bugs, and God knows what else. I'm also worried that he's going to trip over his stuff and hurt himself. And as for being a fire hazzard, I know he'd never make it out in time. I've tried cleaning his house for him, but I have since come to understand the futility of doing so. The mess just comes back without treating the underlying cause of WHY he lives this way. What can I do to help him? Are there support groups I can steer him towards? Advice and links would be appreciated...

2007-05-13 19:54:17 · 8 answers · asked by aas_627 4 in Health Mental Health

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I went to hoarding and cluttering conference and this is a very hard issue to deal with in mental health. If you can go to your local mental health associate and they can give you great interventions to use with your father. One of the methods I have used with my clients is taking a trash bag to their home and throwing it away with them. That little support can be a step, jjust remember it is a mental illness and it takes time to manage it, be patient. Good luck

2007-05-13 19:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you're actually not on my own; there are lots of people who've grown up with Compulsive Hoarders. I constantly used to snicker and tell human beings my father replaced right into a packrat, yet interior it wasn't humorous. i'm 40 8 yrs previous, and nevertheless embarrassed whilst human beings see my father's abode. He would not understand that he has a topic; to him it is basically a be counted of "not having sufficient storage". in spite of the incontrovertible fact that, he's have been given storage lockers and a basement, and nevertheless each and every room in the home is crammed with stuff. there is been basically a pathway by way of each and every room in the abode for as long as i will keep in mind. (Even the bathing room!) i won't be able to grant you any ideas on your mom's subject; i will basically inform you that it is not YOUR FAULT, and you're able to on no account, ever think of that any of it has something to do with you. it is a few thing which you have not have been given any administration over. All you're able to do is proceed to tutor your self related to the subject, and study the thank you to not become that way your self. Oh, and sophieb, in case you do not understand something related to the undertaking, you're able to not answer the question.

2016-10-05 01:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by durrell 4 · 0 0

Either he is unable to do things for himself due to health problems or he just doesn't care. Either way, he is living a miserable existence. How long has he been living alone, and how old is he? Can he afford a regular housekeeper? If so, find one for him. Suggest he have a yard sale and help him organize and do it. Get rid of the junk that's left over. It sounds like he has too much stuff and needs to have his life streamlined. If he is in poor health consider moving him to a nursing home.

2007-05-13 20:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I remember an exact show on this. It was on Oprah. It was about people that are in situations like your father. It was very informative, as many people just perceived such people as being dirty... but the issue had nothing to do with that. I have a link to the specific show and it includes resources for help to the both of you. Good Luck!!!

http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200411/tows_past_20041118_b.jhtml

2007-05-13 19:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mexi Poff 5 · 0 0

Just google compulsive hoarding. There are dozens of links out there.

2007-05-13 20:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0 0

I knew a lady like this and I think she has no idea how bad it is chek out sites below

2007-05-13 19:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

call the health department

2007-05-14 04:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by ourlittleposseof12 3 · 0 1

My mother has this exact problem.
I don't know how to help her either...but please know, that there are others out there.

2007-05-13 20:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by LadeeBug Buddha 3 · 1 0

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