we have been together for 5 and a half yrs and he still hasnt popped the q. can you help?
2007-05-13 19:47:20 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you guys live together already? If so he probably doesn't feel the need to, he probably feels like he's already married to you. He might be taking you for granted. Have a talk with him about it, after all he is truly the only one that can answer all of your questions on this issue.
If talking to him doesn't work, cut him off, no sex until you guys are married. Best of Luck!
2007-05-13 19:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are a piece of work.
I agree with the ones that say you should propose.
Forget about tradition and I grew up thinking that the boyfriend should propose.
Do you have any idea how sick guys are of always feeling like they have to initiate action to get anything done. That's why they are so stressed from work because they feel like nothing would be if they didn't initiate it. Ok another subject.
It's true though. Guys are always (or virtually most of the time) the ones in a relationship that is expected to be aggressive and start the hand holding, the first kiss, the first date, the first time, and on and on. And then when they get rejected once or maybe even a few times it gets aggravating. Only because it's confusing due to years of women not doing more of their part.
Do your part and ask him. If he's so special and thinking the same thing, he'll probably say yes. Before you ask though, maybe ask a few other people if they know of a way to get some feeling about what he would say without blowing the fact that you want to get married. One tradition that should be kept secret is the proposal. Lately, almost everyone I know goes and looks at rings before they even ask.
How tacky and lame. No surprise or thought whatsoever about trying to make it the most important day of your life. At least one of them.
2007-05-14 03:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by scott201 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know if he's dating other girls? Or are you two exclusive? If you're exclusive for all these years, I think it's time for you to tell him to sh** or get off the pot!! That means you give him an ultimatum. Either he proposes (and no long engagement!!) or it's time he stopped wasting your valuable time, and you both go your separate ways! Hopefully that'll get him to open up and tell you why he hasn't proposed. If it's a lame excuse, tell him it's over. Don't worry , if he really loves you, he'll be back. But you have to stick your guns. Good luck! I'm dying to know how this plays out.
2007-05-14 03:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, there can be a million anwsers to that. have you've been up front with him and just asked him. Maybe saying something like where do you see yourself in the next 2 years and see what he mentions, maybe he has plans to marry, if he doesn't maybe you should add how does marriage or a higher commitment fit into those plans in the next two years.
Hopefully this helps
2007-05-14 02:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not that into you. The chemistry would have already been there if he was. I say it is time to make yourself available on the "market" and find that guy who DOES want to spend the rest of his life with you. Obviously this guy doesn't take your relationship seriously, and it seems like you are serious. If he really had intentions of marrying you, he would have told you his apprehensions about why he hasn't asked you yet.
I say move on. I proposed to my wife 10 months after meeting her, I knew from day one she was the woman for me. This guy seems to have alterior motives.
Sorry :-(
2007-05-14 02:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by eriknjensen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he is very comfortable in the relationship just the way it is. If you don't change things he will be happy to remain just as he is, Unmarried.
You may have to make things a little less comfortable to get his attention. If he loves you enough he will respond with questions that will lead to taking care of your needs. If not then there you have it.
Be ready to move on, or be ready to stay as you are. Both are OK they are just choices you have to make.
Good luck either way.
2007-05-14 02:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If marriage is what you want, why not propose to him? What says that only the guy should do this?
In any event, it seems as if your boyfriend is simply not ready for such a commitment. If you're interested in why not, best talk to him about it.
2007-05-14 02:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ultimatum.
If he wants you, he'll ask. But you have to be secure enough in yourself to know that you could leave him.
You're not happy, obviously. Tell him that you are interested in seeing other people. And do it...
That will either help you to find a new guy. or to put a fire under his a s s when he realizes that he could lose you.
2007-05-14 02:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by LadeeBug Buddha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be he isn't ready yet. He may not even want to get married at all. Have you ask him where he stands on the issue of marriage?
It's 2007 so approach him and discuss it. Don't be scared. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
2007-05-14 02:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready, tell him to sh*t or get off the pot. Don't let him take up any more of your valuable young years. I waited for 12 years and then was told that he did not want to get married. He took the best years of my life!!!
2007-05-14 02:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋