I have been seeing a guy for just over 1 month now...he asked me to marry him the other day. which i only met him 1 month ago. we've only had sex two times. He is a nice guy but, i havent even no where near fallin in love with him. In a way it seems a little weird to me he'd even think i'd be ready.he lives 1 hour from me and we've only spent 2 weekends together. Is this normal? should it be a red flag to me? please tell me what u think.
2007-05-13 19:32:28 · 23 answers · asked by littlebit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's still living at home, he might just want to get out of there. But NO WAY should you marry him, or even live with him yet! Maybe you really are his perfect woman, but you've got to be honest with him, and tell him it's way to soon. Keep dating him, and you might fall in love with him. But if you realise that there's no future for the two of you, you have to break up with him immediately. No use wasting both of your time. When you are ready to get married you'll know it. A little piece of advice I learned the hard way: On your wedding day there should be NO doubts. And you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Good luck to you both.
2007-05-13 19:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red Flag..yes
Too fast.... too soon... how much to know about hime in just over a month. ... ?
Sex .... could be the cause of the issue.. Sex tends escalate everything around us.... and can make heart and mind confused.
Use your mind not just let you heart rule.
Falling in love is a process of knowing each other, trusting and relying on each other... not just sex that is why you are no where near falling in love with him.
Stop or Slow things down....
2007-05-13 19:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by MikeC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 19:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he afraid you will find out about him if he waits until a reasonable time then asks?
Will you find he is a beater, or abuser, or pervert, or con artist, or user.
Wow maybe you should not have sex either until you know more about the person.
Yes, Red Flags everywhere!
Respect yourself and respect your instincts.
If this is a problem for him you have lost nothing. Run!!!
2007-05-13 19:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so not normal!!! Don't rush into marrying this guy, spend more time w/ him and learn about him.. What if you're married to him and you discover a lot of weird stuff from his past? So, its not cool!!! -Red Flag....
Good Luck
2007-05-13 19:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he's making your relationship running not moving as it should be. I think that you should spend some time all by yourself and reflect on why he's saying this to you cause it's not a normal thing to say to your partner that you want to marry him/her after a one month relationship. If I were you I would definately split but that's just me.
2007-05-13 19:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it's a red flag. He is moving too quickly. Please, if you can, back off of the sex for awhle, to get to know him in other ways first. If he seems to be controlling, short tempered, trying to have as much of your time as he can, without you spending time with your friends and family, those are other red flags. Please contact a locl center for battered women office in your local area. They can give you pointers on whtat to watch out for. Plus, this guy may be trying to "sweep you off your feet" so quickly, that then, after marriage, watch out! Take care.
2007-05-13 19:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by SAK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you even marry a stranger? You said it, you're not in love with him... Isn't that clear enough? You wouldn't marry someone whom you just met.. it's... scary. 2 weekends together?? Man, that's just scary.. I'm scared for you right now. You really shouldn't.
2007-05-13 19:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Central Park 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinks he is ready for that step. just tell him you are not. some people can know that quickly and some dont. go at your own pace not his. if you get creeped out by him again, concide ending it. what does your gut tell you? i had a guy ask me out 24 hour after meeting me and it didnt work out.
2007-05-13 19:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's a pretty big warning sign; the guy craves attachment for some reason. Talk to him about it.
2007-05-13 19:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋