Here's the short story. Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago. We had been together for a year and a half. I do not want to get back with him whatsoever! But we were friends before we got together. Now me and his cousin are best friends and they are very close. This summer me and my friend will be going to the lake, alot. Well, my ex will be going as well. He has a new girlfriend and she will probably be with him most of the time. If it were up to me I would do everything I could not to be around him. I do not want to pass up any chances to have fun, just to avoid being around my ex. My friends have already talked to him about being around me this summer. He says everything is cool, and it will be fine. I think I will be fine if I just have to be around him. But if I have to be around his new girlfriend, I do not know how comfortable I will be with the situation. I know I can deal with it, but I just need some advice about the issue!
2007-05-13 19:27:33 · 9 answers · asked by michelle 23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its gonna be very difficult! He is most probably looking forward to this cause now he can try to make u jelous with the new girlfriend! And u guys have only been apart for two months and he already has a new gf? Sounds strange! I don't think that he is over u yet! Look don't let your ex get to you though! Just try and act like he isnt there and stay as far away from him as possible! If u do get upset about something dont let him see! Unfortunately cause you guys were together so long u have a history and once u have a history things get complicated! Maybe in a year you could have hung around him and been ok but its way too soon! Dont stop living ur life and enjoying time with ur friends cause of him but you really need to think if this is gonna be healthy for you??
2007-05-13 19:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Stacey-Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Michele, usually things aren't quite as difficult as we make them out to be. Let's start with your own attitude. You and your ex ar not longer together. Does this mean you're not romantically engaged but are still friends? Or not even friends? Whatever your feeling are concerning your ex, it is your feelings about you that are important. If you feel comfortable with your breakup, and comfortable with yourself without him (no long sad faces, no late-night tears, no lingering over his favorite songs, etc.), then think of him as simply an unfortunate victim of his own poor choosing. After all, he had a chance at the best - you - and blew it. He has demonstrated he is too insensitive for you, too dull-witted to keep up with you, too weak to fight for you, and so forth. You, on the other hand, are still the best woman in the world, the brightest, the most beautiful, the most charming. You don't spend yourself on the first hunk that walks by. You are saving yourself for someone worthy of your talents. It sure wasn't him. So let some other poor girl pick up your leftovers and be thankful every time you see them together, or her separately, that you aren't stuck in that pattern. Say a prayer for them, they really need it. And pray for yourself with thankfulness that you are free.
2007-05-13 19:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, and realize that letting your ex's presence affect you is not whatsoever to your benefit. The best way to go about doing things, in my opinion, is to simply interact with him as you would with anyone else. After all, he's now only one person amongst many, rather than someone special to you.
2007-05-13 19:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like you could care less. Don't pay much attention to them. Maybe talk to other single guys there and dance, have a good time and don't act like you're nervous. Smile and laugh and maybe you'll attract someone else while you're there.
2016-05-17 11:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by georgine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what made you to be out of reach with your boyfriend for the past two months. When you were close for almost 1yr and 6months analyse what is wrong and where you both have done wrong? Once you both have analysed speak frankly each other and then it will make you both to be close
2007-05-13 19:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by RevaGanapathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen baby. Do you have a personality that is your own? Why dont you try being yourself for once. I think people would like the real you instead of some character you are playing.
2007-05-13 19:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be friendly with your ex and his girlfriend, have fun, real fun, ignore the situation and act natural. be yourself. you're there to enjoy so do it.
2007-05-13 19:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heyy...its just eassy!!! Why you dont think to bring your new boyfriend too? show him that you can do the same thing...you can find someone else....i think it will good....think that
2007-05-13 19:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by juni a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act cool like your over it. u dont want everyone thinking your bitter & stil not over him....
2007-05-13 19:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋