My girlfriend always talks to guys, most of her friends are guys. She says she'd never do anything with any other guy and that she is just friends with them, nothing more. I tried to tell her how guys think and that to guys, there is no such thing as just friends but she doesn't believe me. I told her that all they wanna do is get her pants if they actually want to be her friend...and she said she can't help that. I told her that if thats what they want from her then she shouldn't want to be around them but she just said "But they are cool". I think its messed up that she talks to guys. I purposely avoid all girls and try to talk to them as least as possible because I figured she felt the same way. She said she loves me more than anything and that she wants to marry me but sometimes I feel like I can't trust her. She's 15 and I'm 16 (and by getting married, she doesnt mean right now, but in the future)
2007-05-13 19:04:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like trust is an issue here. Dont ever tell your girlfriend not to talk to guys - we HATE that. It will only make her want to cheat. Instead, encourage her to make friends in both guys and girls. As long as she isn't FLIRTING with them, its OK. You should talk to girls also - but not flirt with them. You have to trust her. If she DOES flirt with another guy, tell her what the hell, you are my girl. In THIS situation, you are allowed to be jealous, because she has obviously crossed a line.
If she DOES do something with another guy, just let her have him and leave her - she'll come to her senses after that. Dont waste your time on trying to control her - and tell yourself that unless you lock her up in a basement, she'll ALWAYS have the option of cheating...
Trust is not about controlling your partner, but letting them roam free and then seeing whether they remain faithful or not. Good Luck and best wishes
2007-05-13 19:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by Safari G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you could probably go all Silence of the Lambs on her and stick in her in a hole in the ground or just accept that she WILL talk to guys... and the sooner she finds out how to spot a player, the better it'll be for both of you.
Don't be so afraid, and let her have her own life. I don't think you'll stop talking to other girls because she would want it. Anyways, I'm willing to bet she had guy friends even before she met you.
So just give her the benefit of the doubt, trust her and be man about it. If you show confidence and strength, she won't leave you.
If she does do something behind your back, then don't worry about it, she wasn't worth it, you don't need a person like that.
2007-05-13 19:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by namojaro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you sound like such a nice guy, like how you would leave her if it made her happy. Even if you were sad, there isnt alot of people like you out there! Unfortunatly i do think there is something more going on here. It could be that she wants to be with this guy, but cant bring herself to break it to you, so she probably thinks if she hints enough you will get jealous, wont put up with it and end up leaving her, The only other explanation is to make you jealous, like if she felt you wernt giving her enough attention. I think its unfair she is rubbing your face in it like this, and it sounds you could find yourself a girl who really cares about your feelings, more than what she does. Its gunna be hard, but the best thing you can do is come out with it and ask her. Tell her how its making you feel, and how your not over reacting, and how she is acting, or more the things she says about him isnt just friendly. Tell her that if she would be happier with him then you would step aside. But she cant do this to you, its so unfair. I wish you the best of luck!
2016-05-17 11:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lots of guys friends....yeah some flirt... but you need to draw the line. Not all guy friends want to get in the girl friend's pants!
That shows you feel some insecurity about yourself bk you dont trust her wt them!
You cant change a person and thats who she is.
You either accept it or you dont.
2007-05-13 19:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lighten up. #1: You are 16 and she is 15. #2: You need to learn right now that you can't control people and if you don't like the fact that she has a lot of guy friends then you need to let her go because you are being unfair to her.
2007-05-13 19:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are definitely too immature yet to be in a relationship. If you sincerely believe that every male that talks to her is looking to get into her pants and that she's betraying you by living a normal life, then please break up with her and stay out of relationships until you can get your head together. You are way too insecure, too controlling, and have self-esteem problems, partner.
2007-05-13 19:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. She's entitled to have her friends, regardless of whether they are male or female. And while maybe all you think of is getting in her pants, not all guys think that way. You need to trust her, or the relationship will not work.
2007-05-13 19:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Merrik N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust her with her male friends, you shouldn't be with her. If her guy friends hit on her, if she's a loyal girlfriend she will tell them to screw off, so you have nothing to worry about unless you don't trust her.
If you trust her, let her be friends with whoever she wants. She can handle herself. If you don't trust her, leave her, because without trust you have no relationship at all.
2007-05-13 19:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have enough trust in her and respect for her to "allow" her to talk to 50% of the people on this planet, you should not have a girlfriend.
2007-05-13 19:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! you're up pretty late. don't you have school tomorrow? lol if you act like it bothers you, you can guarantee she will talk to more guys. c'mon, we're cute like that, right? lol good luck sweetie.
2007-05-13 19:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋