Ok so the father of my child has gotten very fat lately and he should seriously loose weight and I wanna tell him that he is fat and should loose lotta weight but dont the the way to tell him without hurting his feelings? How can I tell him nicely without being hurtfl or hateful? I wanna sound concerned and at the same time make it sound urgent, trying to make him understand that he urgently needs to loose the weight...how do I break it down?
2007-05-13 18:58:54 · 11 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
I dont live with him, we´re separated now so it´s not like I can tell him: "let´s go jogging together". besides he doesnt like excercise at all. I just feel like giving him a bottle of Trim Spa or something but I know that be to offensive for him and he´s take it to personally...
2007-05-13 19:18:51 · update #1
Well, first I'd use the word "lose". You see, loose = opposite of tight. Lose = to get rid of; opposite of win.
2007-05-13 19:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by John G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is a reason he has gained weight. Don't be rude about it. As some people get older they gain weight. Some people have health issues that cause this problem. Now if he just lays around all of the time and eats then well that is obvious. But I would say something like I am worried about your health what is going on with your weight? Is there anything you can do to help him? And what is so urgent is it just a matter of the way he looks to you? If his physical appearance is all you care about then you had a baby with the wrong person.
2007-05-13 19:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by desertlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably already got a pretty good idea that he is overweight, so you don't need to tell him. You just need to support him with ways to get him back to good health. Ask him to take brisk walks with you because you'd like to lose a couple of pounds. Make him healthy meals with lots of fruits and veggies. He needs to work on losing it slowly and make it a lifestyle change, or otherwise it won't work. If you can help him incorporate more exercise into his day, that is the most helpful thing of all. Whatever you can do to encourage him to move and make it fun, you should give a try. Take the stairs- race him up. Go for bike rides. Go skating. Do exercise oriented things on weekends, instead of sitting-down things like movies. Go swimming. It's great exercise, easy on your joints.
When he loses even a few lbs, buy him a new shirt and tell him he looks hot. Every little bit of encouragement helps. But be sincere with the compliments. People can tell what's phony and what isn't.
2007-05-13 19:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if it's a health issue, I'd be upfront with him. You're probably one of the only people close enough and intimate enough to be straight wtih him, right? If you're still worried he may not take it well, I'd be subtle by reading up in a magazine in front of him and say, "wow, look here...it says that being overweight can blah blah blah blah," and then look up at him. lol! You may just wanna phrase it well, like, "you're getting a little heavier since _______. Are you okay? What's changed?"
Personally, if I were that concerned, I'd make it seem like I was in it with him. "We both have more baby fat than our kid...maybe we should work out together." Then at least you're getting sexier for each other *wink* Then you have an opening for the conversation at least and can mention health issues, etc.
2007-05-13 19:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by the_ivy_vine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've lost 5 kilos in my first week. It's my 10th day and I have included salad with some protein (eg. egg/ lean chicken) as you suggested. After 4 years of trying, the fat is finally coming off. It truly feels like magic!
Get started today!
2016-05-14 15:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...that's a tough one.
I got a little chubby a bit ago, and my boyfriend was really sweet about it. He told me one day that we should go buy new running shoes, and when I asked him why, he answered that he had been feeling like going jogging, and that I should go with him. :)
I saw through it in a second, but...the fact that he was willing to jog with me really made me feel better about the whole thing.
I don't know what sort of relationship you have with this man, but...it always helps to be nurturing.
If all else fails, though...you can always poke him in his belly-chub and say "what's this?". If someone does that to me, I always end up laughing (AND running/dieting/eating better) ;)
Hope that helps some.
2007-05-13 19:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by swirlgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just say "yo,fatty!,u ain't gonna be playing hid the salami till u lose at least 30 kg's"
He'll either start taking things in hand more often or lose the weight.
2007-05-13 19:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try saying, "I'm worried about you. You've been gaining weight and I'm concerned about your health. I'd like you to see a doctor to see if there's something wrong, because I want you to be around to see our baby grow up." If you're still having sex with him, tell him it makes him unattractive and you don't want to keep having sex with him if he's going to keep getting fatter.
2007-05-13 19:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, even if he'll get a diabetes, hypertension or high cholesterol, he won't listen if he does not care about himself. First you need to find out why he got fat and then treat him.
2007-05-13 19:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by I need help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dun ask him directly to loss weight but educate him it is unhealthy to be too fat,explain to him the impact of being fat.Try to tell him indirectly ,let him realized it is important to maintain a standard weight.
2007-05-13 19:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by snow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋