Hes my age an we have alot in common! Hes in college an will be home soon for the summer! I checked the college an there was a picture of him with hes name so i no hes no fake person! I like him alot. But scared to meet him. What should I do so I dont have butterflies?
2007-05-13 18:37:21 · 28 answers · asked by blkma87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take a group of friends with you to meet him. You really shouldn't meet anyone alone if you met over the internet. Your friends can help make you comfortable
2007-05-13 18:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by kgee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not we want to admit it, more often than not people are considering doing things like this. I've personally been in this position where now I almost regret meeting up with people from myspace. It's almost awkard cause you don't know wether to write down what you want to say, or speak. Consider this, any person considering dating through a service where you must be at least 14 does this to protect themselves. Myspace as a service knows that creeps will fling onto it trying to pick up honest people. It is possible to take a picture and a name. You'll naturually find people like this anywhere - but do you trust someone who won't go out into public to date? Now I'm sure you don't want that kind of talk, so I'd say try talking to him on the phone before meeting him. If the man can't hold up his end of the conversation, I don't think that could make it anymore awkard than when you meet him.
2007-05-14 01:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked on the phone with him? Seen him on cam? If so then sure meet him in a public place and get to know him first and see where it goes from there. I happened to meet the love of my life online, and although we are not togather any more it doesn't mean you won't find a guy you like. Far better online than in some smelly bar where everyone else thinks you should go to meet people.
2007-05-14 02:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you should. You don't know that you like him, you just know you like the guy he is online! That might not be his real personality at all. But, if you decide to meet him, make it a very public place, meet him during the day not after dark, bring a guy friend who is a really stand up guy, your cell phone and for goodness sakes, don't let him pick you up, have your own vehicle. Also, make sure your friends know who you are going to meet and where he goes to school and exactly where you will be meeting (not just "at the mall" )so that if something does go wrong, the police have some info to start looking for you with. Be safe, please!
2007-05-14 01:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by naniannie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation with a guy from myspace. He turned out to be a player, big time. He also had a lot of problems. drinking and otherwise. He was not the guy I thought he was when I tallked to him on the phone, and gave up on me because there was no action. I Would not meet him, he is probably some perve looking for some action.
2007-05-14 01:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by Alison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To protect yourself suggest a double date or bring a friend, do not go alone but if you do go to a public place notify someone of your location and keep your cell phone on your person at all times. To get rid of butterflies, ask to plan the day; pick somewhere comfortable for you to be yourself and just relax. Talk on the phone before you meet to get accustomed to his voice and talk about what your day will be like, leave no surprises.
2007-05-14 01:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Apocalypse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of a hard call because there is always a risk when you meet people offline. I met my current b/f off of myspace... we have been together for one year and we can't be happier. So It worked out for me but here is my advice to insure your safety....(and what i did) if you do meet him be safe about it. Pick a public place like a restraunt or a coffee shop or something and meet him there. Do that for the first like 2 times. And once u realize that hey he isn't some creepy dude out to get me (that's hard to get over haha) then its okay to maybe let him pick you up. But really be safe.. good luck.. maybe it'll turn out like mine! Oh ya.. and with things like that don't rush :)
2007-05-14 01:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by lilwldblnd954 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him i have this same problem sometimes but i meet my best friend off myspace just a different school but im the guy in this situation i cant be taken away because im pretty big lol but dont let that scare you just meet somwhere where theres alot of people that can see you but still private like starbucks or a public hang out
2007-05-14 01:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by Nathan E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Double date with a group of friends, very public place, and keep it light. Dont' "fall" for him right now. Talk a lot. Ask questions that you may have been scared to ask before. Two things can happen,you can scare him away or make a stronger bond. Take it slow. And if it doesn't feel natural or somethings doesn't feel right (no matter how small) DON'T PUSH IT!!!
2007-05-14 01:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Getsbetterwithtime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could communicate with him through the webcam and check whether he is not a faker. If you really want a meet up, I suggest you bring your friend/s along for precautions. It's not safe for a girl to meet up an online friend alone. Go on a group dating. Just be careful. All the best to you!
2007-05-14 01:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋