I still don't get it after 21 years?

Question

Ok so I used to be shy. But now I've come out of my shell and am talkative, friendly, etc... Not to sound arrogant but I'm a good looking guy, definitely above average. But I have trouble with girls.

I really don't know why that is. I don't go up and ask if they want to hang out sometime, maybe I'm not sending clear signals when in fact I am interested?? Girls smile and act nice to me, but I don't know if they're interested so I can't really make a move because I don't want to seem like a weirdo. What am I supposed to do? Gosh I feel so helpless.

Answer 1

Observe her body language. Without asking first, there is no 100% sure way to tell if a girl likes you enough to date you, but these signs are more reliabel than many people realize.

Note: She must display these signs regularly and she must display more than one.........the more she does, the greater the chances she probably likes you.......

1. Will keep her eyes on you, or her shoulders pointed toward you (even if she's looking at or talking to someone else)
2. When she crosses her legs, the knee on top will point toward you
3. When she sits next to/across from you at a table, she will angle her chair toward you
4. She'll raise her eyebrows and smile when she sees you approach (a big one!)
5. She'll fix her hair with her hands as she talks to you, and perform self-calming gestures, like stroking her neck and mouth
6. The next time your walking in a group, stray a little off to the side. The girls who are interested will probably drift in your direction without even realizing it.


And here are the signs she isn't interested................
1. You ask her to do something and she declines without re-scheduling or telling you to ask her again
2. She says (while you're around) that she likes another guy
3. She crosses her knees and the knee on top is pointed away from you. If her arms are crossed over her stomach or chest, that's probably a bad sign.
4. When you sit next to her, she angles her shoulders away from you or points the knee on top away from you
5. She looks out the car window when you're beside her

If you like a girl who shows these signs, there is a way to ask her to spend time with you without putting the pressure on or looking desperate. Just say, "I'm on my way to the ______. Want to come?" This way, it doesn't look like you've been obsessing over her or planning anything. Also, if the place you're going to is interesting (say you're going to the gym, to a school club, etc) then it will make *you* seem intersting, too. If she says no, don't sweat it. You didn't officially ask her out. She won't know if you're interested in her for sure, but If she says yes, it may be because she wants to get closer to you to try to find out how you feel about her.


hope this helps.................

Answer 2

Remember this each women is different, so never ever use the same thing, women can since it. Yes approach as a friend. Be your self, be confident (that screws it all up if your not), be sincere when asking her any kinds of question. Rejection is a good thing, it teaches you where you go wrong, so practice on women that you are not so interested in. So don't let rejection turn you down. Probably one of the first things you could ask any of them is just the simplest question, Do you mind if I join you? If they are interested in you they will say yes. Plus your actions speak louder than words. If they get the wrong impression of you before you realize it, you will be shot down. First impression can be everything especially in public.

Answer 3

Don't worry. You can simply talk to the girls you are interested in about general things like the weather or something and if you realized that they are also interested in you then very casually ask them out.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

well how you going to know if you dont ask ....girls wont just ask you these days they want to be asked ...
do you have a bisiness card you can hand out or maybe just ask them out for a coffee instead of dinner that way you can work out if you like each other without having to hang out all night,go to bbqs you can always chat to girls there, put your pic on the little picture thing and ask girls that live in your area to check it out and contact you if they want a date or coffee ...

Answer 5

I am sorry to have to tell you this but if you were a good looking guy they would come to you. Good looking men don't have to go up to women. Sorry man, but your in the stupid and ugly as hell category. I know it hurts but someone needs to tell you. My suggestion is get some surgery or get a prostitute. That's the best I can do for you.

Answer 6

Don't approach a girl as a possible lover approach them more as a possible friend. Ask them out to eat with a couple of friend or out to a movie or something. Get to know the girl first and let her get to know you, if your personalities click you'll know who to ask out and who not to.

Answer 7

gosh....hahahaha.

just look at it this way.. if you strike out with a girl, its her loss. Move on to the next one. Dont be afraid of rejection it happens all the time.

Answer 8

Go on group outing with female and male friends and if you interested in someone invite her the next time when you go group dating and sooner or later you can go solo and fly.....cheers

Answer 9

Well try to ask them, you will not seem weirdo in their eyes. Did you try, try and it will answer to all your question. Don't forget girls are not monsters they are humans to. Just ask them in case if one girl doesn't work, there are lot of them.

Answer 10

dude ya gotta seem like a weirdo sometimes it may seem weird to you cause your a dude like myself but to a chick its normal. what do you really have to loose anyway