Well my girlfirend has busy schedule for work and going to college. I go to college and sometimes volunteer with needy charities. We bewarely have any time to see each other and sometimes we only see each other for about 3 hours a week. I love her to death and just want to spend time with her. She said she will have more time to spend with me in the summer. Should I stay with her or break up with her?
2007-05-13 15:50:59 · 15 answers · asked by avenger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your a confusing one aren't you? You want to spend more time with her and you love her to death, And you want to know if you should break up with her? Only a moronic fool would throw away a relationship with a kind and loving woman. She says she wants to spend more time with you in the summer? So what's wrong with that? Do you not love her as much as you claim? I thought you would be looking forward to being with her more. Perhaps it is you who needs to sit down and re-evaluate your priority's. Try reading your own post and you will see how incredibly callous it comes off as. Time for you to do some soul searching bub.
2007-05-13 16:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay. It is never easy to feel as though you are neglected in a relationship, however you care about her and she cares about you. She is not ditching you to hang with her friends or go clubbing, she is actively working towards a goal and you are doing the same. Just make sure that the time that you do get to spend is memorable and youmake the most of it because the moments are few and far between. I understand the lonely thing but maybe you all could text each other daily, or send an email or pre plan the days that you will be together that way you waste no time when you see each other. I say tough it out, in the long run you will be glad that you did.
2007-05-13 15:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by midgee81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you genuinely love and care about eachother-- you can make it work. I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I are both in college and also work. I get to see him maybe twice a month if I'm lucky.
It's hard, trust me. So I know how you feel....very frustrating to not get to be with the person you care about. I would wait and see how the summer goes. If she's saying she'll have more time to spend, then that will be great! I don't think it's worth losing someone you truly love, over just bad circumstances/conflicting schedules. It may be hard now, but just keep in mind it won't always be so busy.
I'd say stick it out and see how things go...if you're stilll not having enough time to spend together and it's not working for you, then you'll know what to do....but then again, who knows, she may be worth it...
2007-05-13 15:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by autumn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem bro?
Sounds like both of you are busier than a one-armed paperhanger. And apparently your schedules do coincide occasionally.
Unless you plan to make more time for a new girlfriend, what makes you think you will have more time with her?
Stick with the girl you say you "love to death," and have a fun summer together before you get back to the grindstone in the Fall.
BTW, if you are considering dumping her just because you are both busy,, it doesn't sound like you lover here as much as you claimed.
Doc
2007-05-13 16:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her to death, why are you breaking up with her? in fact, why are you even thinking that? In every relationships, it's not the quantity of time spent together but the quality of it. There are couples who see each other everyday but all they do is fight, do you get the picture?
Loving someone does not mean she should always be physically present. Loving someone is to make all the sacrifices and should always be willing to work on the relationship, regardless if you don't see each other quite often.
Ask yourself, do you really love her to death? Or only mistakes your emotion as love? Because the kind of mentality you have now is a selfish kind of love, You are not willing to endure the feeling of getting to see her less. You were thinking of your own feelings and you do not want to make sacrifices. If you are really, truly, madly inlove with her, you would take everything that comes your way. you will find solutions and remedies not to end the relationship, but rather ways to ensure that you keep it, however the distance you have apart from each other.
You would rather have those quality times rather not having her at all.
2007-05-13 16:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by pinkdot 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love her yes. I mean of course you guys are in college and you had to go into that knowing that. What both of you do now can the rest of your life so try to be more understanding of her schedule. Yes she probably cares for you as much as you do her but give her time to focus on this. You guys aren't garanteed to last for a life time but what she learns can never be taken away. And try asking her babe just one more time reassure me is this relationship something you want to be in, I know your working and everything I just can't help but wonder if your working to stay away from me or what boo just let me konw early so and I promise to be more understanding. Then be more understanding.
2007-05-13 15:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by lovely_ms_t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she has promised to spend more time with you in the Summe (whether she will be able to do it or not) means that she realizes it's a problem and she is trying to fix it. In any relationship you have to be flexible if you want to make it work. So my answer is to stay with her because there will be times when you will be busy and she can pay you back then.
2007-05-13 15:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Tourang B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say stay if you love her.. the summer will be the best time ever, you will have a chance to get to know each other and all that.. take a trip together or something.. then if you still don't think she is worth waiting for.. then dump her..
2007-05-13 15:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by Marissa P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds kind of crazy to leave the person you love! i think you should stay. as long as you can even talk on the phone, you're still having contact. i'm sure if you two are in love then you can get through the short visiting for now. best wishes and good luck!
2007-05-13 16:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by juliemarie6151982 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love her to death why ask.. its not the amount of time you have to spend with her right now give what time you do have all your effort. if you guys are okay and you love her why break up?
2007-05-13 15:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Laine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋