I need help I dont know what to do?? I really shy around people and I really like this guy but I dont think I will be able to talk to him and I can bearly stand it when he looks at me ( I get nervous) and the bad thing is that I might not see him anymore (he's moving) I I will see him in two years!!! I would like to at want him to get to know me!! What can I do!!
Please email me as soon as posible!!!
2007-05-13 14:33:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is moving, just wait for something to come along a bit more local.. Long distance relationships are not worth the effort
2007-05-13 14:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look. You have two options. One, you can just say to yourself it would be easier not to put yourself out there, because if you do you could be hurt emotionally. Hey, maybe in two years he wont find anyone else and you will be ready to talk to him then. Not the best odds if you ask me. The second is to put everything into perspective. You have one chance to tell him how you feel before he leaves. Now I dont know how well you know this guy, but I wouldn't recommend going up to him and telling him how much you love him right off the bat if you have never talked to him before. I say just put all your qualms aside. You have to get up the courage to go talk to him for a while. After you get to know him a little, then come out and say how you feel. What is the worst that could happen..? What if he says that he doesn't feel the same way. So what. You will get over it. But i guarantee that it will take a lot longer to get over the fact that that you let a chance to tell the guy of your dreams how you feel slip through your fingers. Now this may seem too straight forward, but really what other options do you have. This whole situation revolves around the battle between your desires and your fears. Only you can decide which one will win.
2007-05-13 14:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its a bit old fassioned, but you could try the lost art of conversation :). Try striking up a convo by starting with something you both have in common (say for example the same class, or something).
It doesnt really need to make a lot of sence most of the conversation starters dont but since you move off them quickly no attention is held on them for long. Like say for example your both at a libary
you "hey, x book ive read that (dont lie bout it though, if you havent read it say you want to read it)"
him "blah blah"
you "so you like reading huh" (or whatever)
Then from there you can go anyware, As long as you keep the confidence up and at least semi look into his eyes you should be fine.
You can doo iitt!!!!
2007-05-13 14:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey chill out, guys get nervous when your nervous around them. Next time he looks a you just smile back. And then continue what you are doing. Start small conversations when you can like," Where are you going to move to? Do you think you'll like it there?" Just be calm around him and let on that you want to be his friend. He'll probably feel much more relaxed and calm and want to be your friend. Then keeep in touch with him over the period of time that he is gone.
2007-05-13 14:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by babygurl987 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is moving away so just forget about it. You have to quit labeling your self as shy and instead be outgoing. Start acting like it and it will happen. Smile at everyone you meet, say hello to everyone you meet, and it gets easier and easier. Then when he comes back in two years see what happens but by then you may have forgotten all about him!
2007-05-13 14:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and enjoy the time you have left. Action cures fear so move fast. If things don't end up as you hope it wasn't meant to be and it will be easier to forget because he's leaving. Enjoy what time you have left, you wouldn't want to have regrets once he's left, would you? Good luck.
2007-05-13 14:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by fonti1992 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just find out what he likes and hang out with him and you should find out like his email or umber so you can keep in touch with him but i dont think a good relationship can be bilt off of this
2007-05-13 14:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by Kenzii 1 2 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wright him a note and leave it on his desk or someplace you know he will be and you need to hurry after all he is MOVING
2007-05-13 14:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get up the guts to introduce yourself and see where it goes. Thats really all you can do, hun.
2007-05-13 14:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by emmyfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um if he's moving then there's nothing you can do.
you're definetely not ready for a relationship if you freak out when he's just looking at you.
sorry. it's a flop.
2007-05-13 14:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by jaslene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋