What would you think...?

Question

...happened in someones childhood to make that person very paranoid, have no confidence at all and be very afraid of anything, yet they're sweet and caring but barely show any emotion?
What would you think of this person if everytime they got drunk they would cry their heart out?
Something wrong here?

Answer 1

Well, being abused myself, I would automatically go to that, since that has MULTIPLE reprocussions throughout life.
There also could be another explanation, such as being abandoned at a young age (father walking out on the family for example).
Either way, I'd encourage you to talk to them and try to bring that out so that they can have a sense that someone is there rooting for them (if you are close enough with this person, or even not).
And if the person you are talking about happens to be yourself, I'd really encourage you to talk to someone and get to the root of it before it gets too damaging. I would say counseling, but that doesn't help for everybody.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm not a doc but I think that as a child if U were lied 2 decieved or used in any way that that could definetly lead 2 some trust/paranoid issues.As far as getting drunk & crying maybe something n u're childhood also that made u always hold back & not let how u were feeling show so that when u drink & u're inibitions r down u have like a mini breakdown.I think that u should get therapy u dont sound 2 far gone.

Answer 3

The obvious, quick answer would be molestation. But, whatever it might be, as long as it is bottled up, it is not able to be dealt with. Therapy is a natural choice of routes to take, but, unfortunately, a lot of therapists insist upon medication as condition of treatment, and research shows that medicating covers up a lot of the feelings necessarily experienced if one is to come to grips with issues so long entrenched. Often, it is better if one can find someone truly trustworthy and loyal to open up to. And the fact that it takes alcohol to open the floodgates shows that the urge is there, but is avoided unless the guard is let down. As is said, ya gotta wanna if you are going to be able to do. Alcohol does not help, nor do any recreational drugs.
Yes, something is wrong here. Feel compassion, reach out a caring hand.

Answer 4

I have problems showing emotion myself- but that is because my family didn't show emotion to each other when my sister and I were younger. To this day our parents are the same way even to their own Grandchildren. Some people just have to find their own way to deal with things, for some it takes talking to a counselor or keeping a journal to get their feelings out.

Answer 5

Drinking always the mind to let down the guard, the inhibitions, thus the crying etc. Sounds like the peson would benefit from seeing a licensed social worker or psychologist who specializes in post tramatic stress disorder.

Answer 6

Maybe they were overprotected by parents and never learned to cope with stress and anxiety. Alcohol is a depressant so crying makes sense. what lies beneath the tears belongs to that person until it is shared with you.

Answer 7

Sometimes our past lives effect us in the present, and spoils our future. Dwelling on the past is going to affect us in the present. I'm not saying here to totally ignore it, but don't let it ruin your present or future.

Answer 8

you should look inside yourself if you have the patience to listen or not. if you do, listen and help if you can.

Answer 9

sounds like they have been abused

Answer 10

Maybe.