My partner and I are getting married next year in a catholic church. I am catholic and he was brought up protestant though having being baptised in a catholic church. Thanks to peoples answers on here I now know that as he is baptised catholic he is basically catholic just not church going. He received no protestant sacraments. What my question is that as he has only received the sacrament of baptism in the catholic church does he have to have the other sacraments (communion and confirmation) before he can get married in the catholic church. We would like to have a catholic wedding. Our daughter was christened catholic also. We have discussed this and (only if he really has to) is willing to have these sacraments if this is the only way for us to have our catholic wedding. A protestant wedding is really out of the question as he was never baptised into the church. To be honest, a bad decistion on behalf of his parents. Baptised into one religion and raised another. Unfair on the child
2007-05-13 13:25:41 · 16 answers · asked by Teresa M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I got married a few years ago in a catholic church. The priest will look for a birth certificate from both of you to prove you were baptised, a confirmation certificate from both of you to prove you have been confirmed and a letter of freedom from both of you if you are getting married in a church where one or both of you was not baptised to prove you were never married before. I was born in England and I got married in Ireland and I had all this to do. Your priest will be able to help you out if you are in any doubt. It depends where you are living. The rules could be different there.
2007-05-14 05:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance does not need to have received his first communion nor confirmation in order to be wed in a Catholic Church. If he so wishes, he can receive both of these sacraments during the actual wedding Mass, but it is not mandatory.
Most parishes in North America do, however, require that you take a 'Marriage Preparation Course' and the pastor usually needs to know one year in advance in order to go through all the preliminaries. i.e. publish the wedding banns, ensure there was no previous marriage of either person, etc...
2007-05-15 03:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by lonepiper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you are not planning on a Nuptual Mass (which could get uncomfortable around Communion time). As far as I know, the sacrament of Matrimony does not require full initiation of the other partner, only an affirmation that any children involved will be raised in the Catholic faith. Technically he will not be able to participate in any lay liturgical ministries until he is, but the only other sacrament that requires the big three is Holy Orders (not an issue for you).
2016-04-01 09:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I are both Catholic and our church required us to provide proof that we were both baptized and had confirmation. We were told in our marriage preperation course (which was required by the church) that these two sacrements are a requirement for marriages the Catholic church. In fact, there was a couple in the course who was in the same situation as you and the priest said the groom must be confirmed in order for them to get married. But obviously the best thing to do is contact your church for more information. When you actually book the wedding they will tell you everything that needs to be done beforehand.
2007-05-13 13:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by katskradle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really be asking the priest where you want to get married. they all have different opinions. im sure even if one partner is a completely different religion, you can still get married in catholic church, but some priests may require that the other partner (you) is a practising catholic ie go to mass weekly, confession at least once a year and take part in other church activities. you can check with more than one priest and see what they say, then go with the one you feel most comfortable with.
2007-05-13 21:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he only needs to be baptized Catholic. He may have to provide proof (his paperwork) but the church you get married in should be able to get it from that church. My suggestion would be to call the church or priest who is going to marry you (or anyone who can answer the question) and ask them any question. They are very good at answering!
I am a non-practicing Catholic who never received Confirmation. I will be getting married in a Catholic church in June. Talk to the church....they are very helpful!
2007-05-13 15:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is this portion of your explanation that compelled me to answer, "To be honest, a bad decistion on behalf of his parents. Baptised into one religion and raised another. Unfair on the child."
I see another bad decision here that is not fair to YOUR CHILD:
You had your daughter Christened a Catholic. By having your daughter Christened a Catholic - you and your fiancee (assuming he is the father) have promised to bring your daughter up instructed in the Catholic Faith. This means you and your fiance must live the lives of active Catholics.
Your fiance must receive the sacraments of Reconciliation, Communion, and Confirmation at least - if for no other reason - to serve as a Catholic role model for the daughter. You too.
If you attempt to bring your daughter up as a Catholic, but do not actively practice what your daughter is being taught, this will eventually confuse, disillusion, maybe even anger her. in the interest of fairness, you and your fiancee must live the Catholic life you want your daughter to live. Doing any less constitutes an unfair situation for your daughter.
It troubles me that your fiancee will only receive the sacraments if "he has to" receive them. He does.
The "bad decision" made by his parents does not justify a "bad decision" made by your daughter's parents.
The bottom line is that you, meaning you and your (soon to be) husband, must always keep in mind what is best for the family. The axion, "The family that stays together prays together." is so true.
Teach your daughter the meaning of "living a Catholic life" by serving as a role model for her to follow. That is - both you and your husband do this.
2007-05-14 04:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Daver 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, he does not have to have the other Sacraments to enable you both to be Married.
As long as he agrees to the children born of this marriage to be raised within the Catholic Church....then no worries!!!
How about after the big-day, he agrees with your Parish Priest to give a blessing???
Like myself, I was Baptised, but never made my 1st Holy Communion and was never Confirmed...when I asked my Parish Priest to do the deed, he said that my marriage had to be blessed!??? (I got married at a registry office).
So, I am not a fully fledged member of the 'club!'¦¬[
Your future husband was Baptised Catholic and has agreed to his children being raised as Catholics....there most definitely should be no problem;o}
Enjoy your beautiful day next year and have a very happy and joyous future!
God blessX
x
2007-05-13 14:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
My parents had a Catholic wedding and my dad did not receive his first Communion until after I did when I was 7. You should check with your local church to be certain though.
2007-05-13 13:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two can get married in a Catholic church, as things currently stand. You would have to go through pre-marital counselling, and he would have to agree to raise future children Catholic. However, it would be nice for all of you to be a cohesive Catholic family, and for him to get confirmed and have communion. Talk to your priest about this, regarding all the details.
2007-05-13 14:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋