My Boyfriend wont let me break up with him?

Question

I have been together with Dusty for about a year, i graduate highschool in 17 days and i am going off to college, he is not, in school i started to fall behind and to get caught up i asked dusty if we could go on a break "HE FLIPPED" but we went on a break and i really got a lot done and more time to hang out with people i havent in years. we started dating again but i am thinkin i want to break up for good now. i also want to hang out with my friend Manny who i kinda have a crush on. but i dont really want to date anyone im going away to college. i told dusty i want to break up and he told me NO, and that we are on a break until next sunday..tonight.. manny wants to come over and hang out, but dusty also wants to. i would much rather hang out with manny. but if dusty knew that he would come over and have a temper tandtrom.. dusty knows i like manny.. but still wont let me break up with him. what do i do??

Answer 1

If you have a dad, brother, uncle or close male neighbor, let them talk to him, he can't let you or not let you do anything. if he gets loud or violent, start making police reports, and tell anyone and everyone what's going on so far. If he gets abusive other's need to know what's going on.

Answer 2

I think you need to have a serious talk with dusty and make it clear to him that you don't have the same feelings for him, that you had when you two first got together. And that your going off to a new school and on to a new life that doesn't involve him. I mean with you going away, it's not like you two will see each other anyways. College is a whole new beginning for you, new friends, new environment, and most definitely new guys. And it sounds like dusty is the controlling type. So you definitely need to get away from him. If he refuses to let you go then you just need to push him out of you life completely.

-dont answer his phone calls
-dont reply to his texts
-block him and/or delete from you myspace and/or facebook account.
-dont reply to him emails
-and most importantly..don't answer the door if he shows up at your house lol

In order for him to realize it's over you have to show him that it is. So you also have to be completely over him too. Which means, don't even be friends with him. It's real easy for exs to talk their way right back into your life.

As for tonight i say avoid dusty and hang out with manny. If you think dusty will show up and have a temper tantrum, then you an manny should go somewhere esle to hang out. Maybe manny's house? Some where dusty couldn't find you.


hope that helps!! =]]

Answer 3

First things first. you may like Manny but he can wait to see you in a few day, not yet. If you want to break up with Dusty, just go out to be in public and tell him you can't do it any more, and need to break up. If he says no again, tell him that it was not a question and that's it. Let him say what he wants to say and if you have any problems with him freaking out in a dangerous way, call someone to come and pick you up. Not Manny though cause then dusty will freak out with a reason!! He will accept it in a day or two- there's nothing else to do. Just say and mean it- when you say it's over.
Good luck

Answer 4

I assume since you are still attending high school that you live with your parents. With this in mind, please tell them that you are breaking up with Dusty, that he may take it hard and you want them to be there for you in case you need them. Dusty does not get to decide if you are breaking up. You do! He sounds controlling and possibly dangerous.
Call him and tell him that the break was just what you needed to decide if you were still interested in dating him and that you are no longer interested. Tell him you do NOT want to see him tonight. (Let him cool off.) Offer to meet him at your house at a later date (when the parents are home) if there needs to be any exchange of "stuff."
You do not have to offer any more of an explanation to him. Your decision is non-negotiable and final.
You are going to college. (Yay you!) A serious relationship may not be in the cards at this time. You are right to consider "hanging out" with Manny being all that you do. It would be wrong to break up with one guy and string another, just to go away to college in a few months. Good thinking on your part.
Go with your instincts. Break up with Dusty. If he gets out of hand, tell him you're through and hang up.
Have a nice time with Manny, don't forget your other friends and keep up the good work that got you into college.

Answer 5

For one congradulations on your graduation. Thats good that you are going to college right after. Ok for Dusty, if he cared for you in any way he would respect your space. I think it would be good for ya'll if you broke apart. You need time to figure out what you really want to do in life and definitely need the concentration in college. Getting involved in another "possible" relationship is not the way to go. This should be your time to enjoy anything and everything. When the time is right you will know and work your way from there.
As for Manny, it happens like that sometimes. I am sure he is good company and all but once again you need this time for yourself. There is nothing wrong with just being friends. You don't know whats instore for you in the future. Manny just may be the guy for you but honestly sweetie my advice is don't persue it yet. There is time!!!

There is a saying" if it is yours let it go; if it comes back it is meant to be". Right now Dusty is over stepping his boundaries and not respecting you at all. Its not up to him if ya'll stay together or not. If you don't want to be with him then so be it. I know you will make the right decision not matter what. But to sum everything up I believe you need to be single and just have friends. Good luck to you sweetie!!!!

Answer 6

You have a big problem. Sounds like your boyfriend is being a little too controling. If I were you I would invite manny over then call you boyfriend and tell him it is over. No matter what he says. If he does come over and get an attitude about it dont be afraid to call the police. It sounds like he needs to be put in line. I know you dont want to get him into any trouble but if you let your relationship continue it could end up that your going to be hurt and he could be in worse trouble then now. That is if he is violent. But from the way it sounds and how he is controling if he isnt now he might become. Take the procotions and use the law. But most of be safe and get out of it if that is what you want.

Answer 7

Tell Dusty "I break up with you." It doesn't have to be 2 people's decision. After you inform him of that, don't take any more of his calls, dot't respond to any messages. No matter what he says.

Don't start dating Manny either. Yeah, he might be nice guy, but you really are going away , won't be able to date him anyway. No need to break Dusty'heart over Manny.

Answer 8

You need to put your foot down about the situation. A man (or in this case, a boy) does not decide for you or any woman if they will or will not be in a relationship. Tell him pointedly without room for question, that the relationship is over, that you are sorry that it hurts him, but there is nothing he can say or do, because you have decided it is time to call it quits- not go on a "break". If you are scared that he may do something to harm you, Manny, or himself, you'll need to take proper action to avoid that.. speak to some authorities, tell your parents, do something, but you cannot let him tell you that you have to be with him. The truth is, you DO NOT, whether he likes it or not. Hope this helps! ~Tina

Answer 9

Oh snap. You got yourself into a bind. But it is fixable. Dusty doesn't want to let you go probably because he has low self esteem issues. He is worried but for some reason puts it out in a negative way. He doesn't own you though so it really is your decision. You have alot of very important decisions to make in the near future with your education...which trust me is far more important. So just say "I don't want to date you anymore because of my future" If Dusty really respects you he'll move on. If not than he wasn't worth it in the first place. Just tell him...thats all you can do....nothing more.

Answer 10

First, drop Dusty like a bad habit. He's an immature controlling jerk with no future.
Second, hanging out with Manny will only cause him unnecessary trouble, and you don't want to date anyone anyway, so it will be for nothing.

Answer 11

Ask Manny to have a talk with Dusty, let the men handle it.