Should I have sex?

Question

I'm 17 years old and I haven't had sex yet. I plan on hanging out with this guy I sort of like over the summer. I don' t want to go out with him, but he's willing to do things that I kind of want to do, but I'm not sure yet...I kind of don't want to have sex, because I'm thinking that waiting until I'm married would be the 'good' thing to do, also it would be a nice gift for my future husband, and I might regret having sex if I do. On the other hand, I really want to (hehe I guess I'm kind of horny) and I might go insane if I wait until I'm married, also I'm thinking that I might regret not having more fun and following my intuition in my High School years, and that when I am married I might regret not having more sexual adventures before sticking with one guy. So basically what I'm asking is, am I missing out if I wait before I'm married to have sex? I really am stumped on this one, and I can't make up my mind. Do you guys have any helpful tips or suggestions? What should I do?

Answer 1

if you are a good christian like me and believe in stuff like no sex before marriage you really shouldn't. i think you should save that for the best person and the one you really love not some boy that you hung out with during the summer of 07' i mean which one really sounds better? and why would you want to risk getting aids or pregnant. i wouldnt and you should'nt either. save that for the one that counts

Answer 2

Well, I understand your dilemma since I recently graduated from high school last year and know how tough this decisions can be. I feel you should have fun while still young before you’re stuck in a married and end up regretted lost opportunities. However, I strongly urge you not to jump into this thing without taking more serious though about it. Your only 17 once and a virgin once, you don’t want to waste your virginity on some guy you don't care for and will regret for the rest of your life. So, I say you should sit down one day and ask your self this question: Is this guy worth it? Is he that great of a guy? Will he change or the same after we have sex? When you ask yourself these question and they are all yes I say go for it. But, if one is no I say it is not worth giving something up that you can not get back. Think about.

Answer 3

most people are probably going to tell you that you should wait until your married. there are definitely some good things about that. like you said, it will be a nice gift for your future husband, and you'll protect yourself from pregnancy and std's. i lost my virginity when i was 17, and i wish i had waited.

honestly, though, you should do it when you feel ready, and by reading your question, you just don't sound ready. you don't have to wait till your married, but you should wait and make sure your first time is with someone that you love, so that it means something. don't throw that gift away just because you're horny or sick of being a virgin. make sure it's the right time.

also, make sure that you use protection. even if you think you know someone really well, even if you trust him, you can never be sure, and it's your responsibility to protect yourself.

Answer 4

I understand what ur saying. I think that waiting has a lot of advantages and having sex has advantages too. What i think u should do is not think so much about what may happen with this guy too soon. If what u guys are talking about doing is having sex with one another and thats not what u feel like doing, or ur not sure, u shouldnt jump into anything ur not confident about. On the other hand, or ur just hanging out with him and sex is a possibility u guys were talking about for the future than see where it takes u. you might decide that you like him enough to have sex and its something u want. when the opportunity arises is when u should question it. dont over think things to soon

Answer 5

You're only 17..whether you decide to wait until you're married or not, now is not the time to decide. I know 17 feels like you're old enough to have sex but trust me, losing my virginity at 16 is one of my biggest regrets. I wish I had waited--at the very least for a few more years. The fact that you're debating it in the first place should tell you what you should do--wait. You should be absolutely certain it's what you want before you do it. It's really easy to get caught up in the lust of the moment, but days or even hours later you could really regret what you did, and you can't take it back. At the very least wait until you meet a steady boyfriend who you love, trust and respect. All of this sounds like cliche advice, but it's very true. You should definitely wait.

Answer 6

i am the same age and at the end of this month my boyfriend and i will have been going out for a year. we have had talks and its defenitely best to wait because what gonna happen to this guy at the end of the summer? if something bad happens, then you will have wasted that one thing thats the most personal to you. and if you get pregnant because something goes wrong, what are you going to do. it is going to be good in the long run, even though it might seem like something you want to do now. im sure that one guy you marry would appreciate you not sleeping around with other people just because you didnt care about waiting. and i think you will look back and be glad you had enough willpower to wait.

Answer 7

I wish I could give u an answer to this question...
Its all up to you -its ur body - no one can decide what u do with it....
I think u got the idea of waiting till ur married from inside of yourself, that means a lot...
U will know when ur ready for sex, its not something that u can really plan, it just happens when it feels right in everyway...
do not have sex just bc the guy wants it or pushes for it...U WILL REGRET THAT MORE THAN ANYTHING....
Your first time should be with someone u love and who loves u, and someone who respects u and ur feelings...
In the end its your choice....but beware its a very very important choice that u will live with for the rest of ur life....

Answer 8

There are hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of couples who never had sex before marriage, and they live life just as happy, if not happier than other people.

I'm not saying to not have sex though, just that your thinking about regreting not having sex isn't fact-based.

I don't really understand the idea of having sex with someone you don't want to be with though. I think that might be a bit unhealthy. I think you should have sex with someone you want to be with. It makes it all the better. You can enjoy it much better if you trust the person you're with.

Anyway, sex does things. You might have sex with this guy over the summer, then totally fall in love with him. Or maybe you'll want the relationship to end, but he won't.

Answer 9

I would wait until I get married. I would rather have sex with someone I feel secure with. If done correctly and with the right intentions, marriage can be very secure. I think it's beautiful to be able to share your sex life with only one person as opposed to many people over the years. I would feel very insecure having any sexual relations with someone that I'm not married to. You might not feel it now but might regret it later.

Answer 10

if you have to ask a group of strangers on the internet if you should have sex then I think you should definitely wait, as it sounds like you're not ready. Whether you wait until you're married or not, I don't know, but it sounds like you don't want it with this guy. Don't have sex just because you don't want to "miss out on fun". There's plenty of time for that, you're only 17. If you do decide to do it please protect yourself, as it sounds like this guy might be a little more experienced than you and you don't want to come down pregnant or with some disease.

Answer 11

Be honest with him by telling him you want to wait. If he can't respect that then he is not worthy anyway. Don't do something you really don't want to do because you will regret it for the rest of your life! Good Luck! You seem like a smart girl you will make the right choice.