why does my 16 year old daughter mouth back all the time?

Answer 1

There is no respect between you both....

Answer 2

Because she is growing up. She is no longer a little girl, but she isn't a woman yet, either. It is a very difficult age for her and everyone around her.

But...She has to learn respect and tolerance,and it's your job as her mother to teach her. Not only with words and advice---but also with example.

Nobody said being a parent is easy. But you have her now so try to do a good job and try to make her understand important things: what to do and what not to do.... and why. Communication is vital here. Teach her now so she will be a source of happiness for you in the future, instead of a source of bitterness and problems.

Get counseling so you can better deal with her. And do it now, before she continues like this and becomes a little monster.

Answer 3

My daughter back mouthed me all the time. Finally I'd had enough, I slowly stopped doing things for her. Driving her around, letting her friends come over, giving her money etc. When she asked why I won't do these things anymore I just replied that I was treating her with the same respect she was showing me. She was a bit slow at making the connection but now she's getting it.
Hope that works for you.

Answer 4

I am a mother of three teens. The only way that a child feels confident enough to risk getting knocked out, is if she has been getting away with little or big things long ago when she was a small child (spoiled). It will be hard to stop this behavior being that she is close to being grown now, unless you strongly enforce that this is totally unacceptable now and stand your ground, all my kids no better, not saying that they have not tried, and I am a single mom and have been divorced since they were grade school age kids. I let them know right away that this was not ever going to fly, respect was the only way to receive respect back from me and trust along with any support other than natural support like )whatever teens like to do that they can't do with out you like shopping etc. My kids will check each other if they feel that one was a little to mouthy to me before I can get a chance to.I would let her know that you mean it once!!! very firmly. and inforce whatever means you choose until she gets it right, because their is nothing worse than an adult child disrespecting you when you have damnly given you life to get them here!! Good Luck MOM, stay firm and strong. and happy belated mothers day to you.

Answer 5

Let's see: there are lots of "reasons". Some times a 16-year-old is acting out, trying to find their "space", trying to grow up, or whatever. If at all possible, try to have a talk with her and ask her what is going on in her life. Don't talk down to her; don't try to be her friend. Parents always need to be parents, but don't need to be too hard on the daughter, or give in to her.
If this doesn't work, ask a friend or preacher, what have you to help with the matter.
Best to you.

Answer 6

bit of a generalised question this. 16 yearolds do mouth back, ive yet to meet one that doesnt. make sure there not more to it though, you know the kind of things, wrong crowd, drugs etc. if there no problem areas then its just a teenage thing. try seeting aside some private time when you can talk to her calmly and tell her how much this upsets you but male sure you let her have her say, you might learn something.

Answer 7

ok i am almost 16 and know that i talk back to my mom and especially my step dad.
I think its mostly because when we go to school every one complains about their parents and how they argue all the time its high school and to be expected...We start doing this so people will listen when we talk and some times so their not the only ones...talking
Another reason may be that she is having trouble in a class,with friends not fitting in or even with a boyfriend,or wanna be bf it all feels the same to us...
Really confussing but you just need to sit and talk to her for a while and help her sort out her problems...you never know she could help you with yours too...

Answer 8

Because its what we do... Im a 17 year old guy, and i mouth off to my parents all the time... It truely is because we have differences of oppinoins on prety much everything. Also... I only talk back to my mom, if my dad finds out i get beat... but w/e. Just explain yourself to her, and dont raise your voice, it should help. Try to understand her, and be the parent. I know that i think my parents dont know what the hell there talking aobut most of the time... but in truth they are. We want chances to prove ourselves worthy of responsibility; and when you probobly treat her like a child she gets angry. Also its just a stage all teens go through... Wait it out, or start punishing her, and make sure you dont loosen up... And remember, you must give respect to get it. (Expecialy from your children... unless your dad forces you to give it to him... lol)

Hope I helped:D

Answer 9

Because she's 16.

Answer 10

because she's 16. 16 yr olds KNOW everything. Remember?

Be patient. In a few years, she'll do anything you want if you'll only promise her that you won't remind her of what a jerk she's being now. (Especially if you don't tell her kids.. or boyfriends.. )

Answer 11

When I was just a wee lad on the isle I was the smae way. I mouthed off to my mother all of the time. It was simply because she didn't really do anything about it. She hit me with a stick....But I grew a hard buttocks so that didn't work anymore. She yelled at me.....but I grew deaf, well to her anyway.

So you want to know how she fixed it? She sent me to America to live with my dad. My dad is a biker. He finds ways to physically assault you to where it hurts. One time, for example, he told me to go cut some fire wood for the house in the wintertime. I told him no. He threw me in the snow and beat me for 5 hours with a piece of firewood. This taught me 2 things....snow is cold, and firewood hurts severely but it warms a house. I cut fire wood after that. But it wasn't all pain, My father is a firm believer in rewards after punishement.....He gave me a beer and beat me for 3 more hours for underage drinking....Hell I didn't know..Im Irish! But I am more respectful now because of it.

So you can do one of two tings in your situation. A) You can let your child mouth off to you and become a bitter angry lesbian who hates you with every fiber of your being. Or B) Send her to a family members house whos not closely associated with you....like your crazzy uncle Leroi...Or Your Grandma who still believes in candle light and firm punishment by way of a wooden spoon.