2007-05-13 12:35:11 · 16 answers · asked by Venee M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
live in his house, but needs roof. the lawn mower just broke,and a few other things but wants to have a big wedding and i want to wait till we get some things paid but he says i have hurt his feeling
2007-05-13 12:55:55 · update #1
This is BOTH of your issues not just his, considering you are living under his roof.
I would state that you should get the roof fixed and the other issues resolved before saving up for a wedding.
Not that you are saying "no" to saying "I do", you are saying to spend the money on the roof/mower THEN on a wedding.
2007-05-14 04:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of the finances, by all means! When you marry an individual, your financial assets and financial risks become more closely tied together. In essence, you are becoming business partners! If you do not thoroughly discuss finances and consider how you guys are going to handle budgetting and financing for various investments, you may have some severe arguments coming your way.
Things to discuss:
Spendings habits and expectations should be similar or at least understood.
An idea of how much income both parties pull in should be familiar to both individuals.
You both should have a clear idea of what your credit score is. This is important if you plan on investing in a house! Credit scores affect mortgage interest rates!
An understanding should be reached on any past or current financial problems. Failure to pay bills or late payments can affect credit for up to seven years. It is important to understand fiscal responsibility.
Credit card debt!!! This is one of the largest sinkholes for most individuals and marriages. Understanding and managing credit card debt is vital.
2007-05-13 19:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by J U 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's rephrase the question... Do you marry him before HE takes care of his finances?
The answer is NO... if he's mucked up his finances and credit, make HIM pay it off before you even consider marrying him.. and don't give him the money either! You don't want to start married life bearing any huge financial burdens, especially any that have nothing to do with you. Eventually you'll resent him for it, and it will undermine your marriage.
If you have to wait a while before getting married, so be it.. but start with a clean slate and money in the bank, not debts.
2007-05-13 19:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We? Sounds like maybe you both need to sit down and work out a plan for every aspect of what marriage will be for the two of you. It's my feeling that people put way too much into the wedding and the gown etc and very little into what it will be like once you get home from the honeymoon.
2007-05-13 19:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by techtwosue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FINANCES FIRST!!! Once you get married his financial problems become yours, then you are responsible to pay them. Go to consumer credit counseling, they can help by considoliating all his bills into one easy payment. They are a non-for profit agency helping consumers to be debt free. This is a wonderful way to eliminate debts and be stress free so you can contrate on getting married. Best Wishes and God Bless!
2007-05-13 19:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take care of his finances first. Why start your new life together under financial stress, when you will already have stress from other areas? When you marry someone, their debt becomes your debt.
2007-05-13 19:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by terrysupreme 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your right...you need to get the finances under control before you add more money to credit or your debt. Very responsible of you.
2007-05-13 20:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
although true love can with stand all things if u took care of the finances first u will enter ur marriage stress free and debt free
2007-05-13 19:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by poeticscribe1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
take care of the other stuff first so then you will have money or you'll be in debt big wedding mest up house think about it priorities
2007-05-13 20:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Li-Li 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but if you wait till everything is paid up your never going to walk down the isle, there is always something to pay for, sad but true!
2007-05-13 20:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by hunkyscutie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋