2007-05-13 12:20:07 · 15 answers · asked by Elaine B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Absolutely have a party! Just say something like, "It's official! Jane has been adopted by Joe, and we'd like you to help us celebrate!" I would word it "Jane has been adopted by Joe" so the little girl knows this is a special day for her - Joe already knows how special this is.
2007-05-13 12:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ottergirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely have a celebration in in order. The adoption of a child is a wonderful event. Since the child is 8 years old, she is old enough to help plan the event. I would ask her how she feels about it. Has she known who her birth father was? Was he ever part of her life? How long has your son been a part of her life? These questions would make a difference in how you word the invitation. Here are some options:
"It's official! Jenny is now John's daughter! Come celebrate with us." Or "While she has been John's daughter in his heart for X years, it's now official. Come celebrate our joyous occasion!" Or "John Doe would like to invite you to help celebrate the adoption of his daughter Jenny." Or you could use the mother as the inviter and word it like "Jane doe would like to announce the adoption of her daughter Jenny by John Doe. Please come celebrate with us."
If the little girl has a bit of humor she could be the one to send the invitations out announcing SHE has adopted him.
Definitely celebrate though. It's a special day and it should be celebrated EVERY year as well. In the adoption community it is common practice to celebrate every "Family Day" after an adoption. It helps remind the entire family that it is a special day with special meaning.
2007-05-13 13:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kim_T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Party... It will be a celebration...Which will show the step daughter she is loved and appreciated...
Celebration For My New Daughter
Get a cake - Happy Adoption Day...
Get an "Adoption Day Card" for the Invites...
Any party supplies you can check site below..
http://adoptionshop.com/adoption_categories/party-supplies/
Have a Happy One..Don't forget to invite Me...
2007-05-16 05:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by BettyBoopGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely have "an adoption party". I've worked in social servcies for years and children really feel special and wanted when the family celebrates. I would take pictures and keep a scrap book. If there are difficult or sad times ahead, this party will remind them of how loved they are.
2007-05-16 16:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lacey G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely!
I was adopted at birth but if i wasn't i would definitely have wanted a party...
It will make her feel like an official part of the family.
As for the invites...maybe something along the lines of "In celebration of (her name)" Just something short and sweet!
good luck and congratulations to your son
2007-05-13 18:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by jac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't over do it, but definitely do something. I would recommend focusing it more on the daughter than the father, this way the daughter will feel more part of the family.
Try something like:
"We're having a celebration to officially welcome Molly into our family"
Be sure to ask her what she thinks and then go ahead and have a nice BBQ for close family and friends. I wouldn't invite the birth father! :-)
2007-05-13 12:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a celebration would be wonderful and make your grandchild feel more welcome into your family.
Invites could be worded along the lines of "It's a family celebration" most of the people invited will know why they are being invited to the party.
2007-05-13 15:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by LuvPugXOXO 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a party would be nice. I have an adult friend and when she was adopted by step-dad as a child, he took her out to eat and somewheres special and made it their special day. I think they did that on the anniversary for a few years too.
2007-05-14 02:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, by all means do something special to welcome her. Your son is now her father "by love and by law." I wouldn't make it a big celebration as she is old enough to be uncomfortable because all her friends aren't going through this, too. Still, a nice meal out, a barbecue at home with a nice cake, and cards to let her know how happy you are that she's now your granddaughter would be nice.
2007-05-13 14:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by Ellen H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it would be proper. I would actually feel offened if it didn't happen. It's like telling the little girl that he accepts her as his own and is happy. Invits...... YOU ARE INVITED TO CELEBRATE A NEW FATHER AND DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP.
2007-05-16 09:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by nature_girl_80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋