I have gone over and above the call of a girlfriend. Im always there when he needs me, i buy him random gifts of things that he may see and i know he may like, write him notes and letters and he is just as romantic sometimes but mostly after an argument. One day i asked him why he treats me bad sometimes when im always good to him. He said maybe im just too nice to him thats why he treats me like that.
What does that mean? Is nice a bad thing?
2007-05-13 12:09:45 · 13 answers · asked by MichM 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is funny because I sounded just like you 5 years ago, I swear that my honey at the time told me EXACTLY the same thing that yours told you. Apparently they want to be treated like crap, my problem with that is now I have no respect for someone who wants treated like that.
There is a guy who will appreciate the things that you do and he will be the perfect man for you, you just have to keep looking for him and don't settle for a crap relationship.
You ask what did he mean by that, he knows that you will continue to stay with him and you will continue to let him disrespect you, that's why he will always treat you bad, he knows you will just try harder to make him happier, it's a vicious cycle and your in the losing end. Dump his sorry butt now, you deserve to be happy!!!
2007-05-13 12:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means it is easy to take advantage of your good nature, because you are so good to him and the temptation for him to treat you badly is so great because he knows he can get away with anything and you would still probably be there for him.
I don't think being nice is a bad thing, but it is a bad thing and quite disturbing that he finds it so easy to want to treat you badly. Look into practising self-assertion for your own heart's sake.
This is exactly the reason why a lot of gals end up looking after themselves first, go overboard and become b*tches and make guys work for any good treatment for themselves.
It's like reverse psychology in a way ~ "treat them mean and keep them keen" mentality.
Although in saying this, it is not a very mature way to do things in that way, because you are mature and don't want to stoop to his level of mentality either, but you also need to be dealing with a mature person in the first place, in order to receive the appreciation you deserve for being so good to him.
If he doesn't clean up his act and start treating you better, tell him to pack his bags ~ there's a lot of more mature guys who would love to have a sincere, caring gal like you in their lives and who would be decent enough to show you respect in return too!
2007-05-13 19:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by Fai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are picking the wrong guys!
I appreciate when a woman shows interest and is romantic but I can't find a girlfriend to save my life.
Try giving the average-looking, shy guy a chance! The guys that can get by on their looks will take you for granted.
2007-05-13 19:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It probably means you're stifling him with too much attention. Yeah, stupid I know but at least he's honest. Now all you need to do is back off. Then wait for him to notice the difference.
And no, being nice is NOT a bad thing if it is appreciated by the right person!!!
2007-05-13 19:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by missbubbles 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he means this in a seriously bad way. I once had a boyfriend like you. It could be one of two things.
1. He's not as into you as you are into him, or he just doesn't care as much.
2. He feels like you're trying to buy or bribe his love.
play hard to get, some girl!
2007-05-13 19:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Marlo♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know something I would give my leg for a woman like you, Im in a relationship where my Gf just keeps being nasty, then apologising, I dont know weither Im comming or going. do the right thing and leave him, dont look for anyone, and wait until you bump into someone that's really worth your time and effort
2007-05-13 19:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by billybobbowinkle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cuz guys dont know how. Its not in there nature to do anything good for the woman they love (except for a few out there) The cave men used to club their women and have sex with them! Not much has changed
2007-05-13 19:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by melaniejean862209 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think this guy loves you for telling you the true. He bahaved the way he does to you because you are too nice to him. My advice is this "keep the care you have for him in your heart and you will have him all over you.
2007-05-13 19:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Badmus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nice is not a bad thing its just that since ur so nice people just go and take advantage of ur niceness
2007-05-13 19:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by demi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its shows you are a lovely girl to be so thoughtful all the time but when it is not appreciated you should take some time for yourself, a weekend away with the girls etc. might teach him to appreciate you more
2007-05-13 19:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by Sam k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋