I'm 24. My parents (who are in their 60s) constantly nag at me and tell me how inappropriate it is for me to split dinner or pick up the bill when my boyfriend and I dine out. They believe the boy should pay every single time and it's wildly inappropriate for the girl to pay at all. I am a recent college grad, but I work full time in a professional field and I'm certainly not strapped for cash. I probably pay, like, 30 percent of the time when he and go out. I don't get why it's such a big deal to my parents... Am I wrong in thinking it's OK or are they wrong for making a fuss about it? What do you think?
2007-05-13 11:35:46 · 8 answers · asked by Laura I 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From all the things I have read that are written by guys on this subject, not once have I read one that said.."Girls should never be allowed to pay."
Guys don't exactly like spending their money all the time, and I am sure they would really appreciate their girl paying every once in a while. As long as it isn't every time, I don't see what the big deal is. I pick up the tab every once in a while, and even though my boyfriend might put up a fight or give me crap, I know that he is probably glad!
2007-05-13 11:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are from a time when the only honorable professions available to women was to be a nurse or a teacher. The world has changed since then.
As for me, with nearly equal opportunities, I do not pay for the pleasure of the company of a woman. I do not pay for food nor drink - I will not bribe a girl; if my company is not good enough, if I am not interesting enough for her to want to be with me, then I am wasting my time with her.
2007-05-13 11:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find nothing wrong with you picking up the tag from time to time. The guy is going to go broke if he pays every time you guys go out. Parents *shakes head*
2007-05-13 11:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well its not bad to pay i mean i pay sometimes because my bf is low on cash all the time but it makes me feel good to pay sometimes and even if he argues with me about it he says its as long as i dont do it all the time
2007-05-13 11:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by cali-jazz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, I don't think it's that big of a deal, but I think the guy should always pay.
2007-05-13 11:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you. There's nothing wrong with paying.
2007-05-13 11:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They see payment as proof of respect, and that it is deferential of you to pay in this context.
They are wrong, however: it is indicitative of your self-esteem that you can uphold yourself.
2007-05-13 11:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing is if u start, u cant ask him to pay for it later. i wouldnt.
2007-05-13 11:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋