sometimes i get very pensive and when i get like that i get all philosophical. sometimes i do regret loosing and not being pure [even if i know i will never marry[sorry i just dont beleive a man can be fathful so i rather love myself]] but at other times that experience was a part of me and i had to go through it to relate to certain aspects of life. i dont know...so do you regret ever loosing it?
2007-05-13 11:23:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Shlane: In discussing this issue with numerous others both, male and female (both, Christian and non-Christian), I can see the answer in most cases was a resounding "yes" ! You won't believe the heart-break and tears girls cried after having been used by the guy who said "I love you" - only later, dumping her. There is something "sacred" to a girl about giving herself over to a guy she believes, loves her. Usuallly, as we grow older, do we begin to put the pieces together regarding the importance of love and a relationship which "welds" a man and woman together, do we value our sexual interactions. Sex becomes an expression of love - not just scratching an itch. Take heart; there are mature men out there, who do handle their girl with LTC (loving tender care) and who do not run around on them. Most of us in the human race (particularily those of us of the western culture) buy into the sex before marriage sucker trap and experience psychological / emotional damage, which we carry through the rest of our lives never realizing that we aren't "all there", as we enter into a marriage relationship. (There's no "robbing Peter to pay Paul" here.) This of course, doesn't cover the pain experienced from contracting a STD and having to settle on a "less than" life style for the rest of his or her life. Please don't get too hard on yourself ! There is that "Mr. Special" out there for you. IF you have lost your virginity to some woman user out there, learn from it and move on with your life. You made a mistake ( most of us have ). Good men and good ladies are like gold that has been refined - you just have to search for them - they're there !
2007-05-13 11:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am no longer with the guy i lost my virginity to but i dont regret it. I loved him at the time and had no regrets. its been almost 5 years since then and I am still confident that I made the right choice. The key is to know that you are ready. If you have any doubts then it is probably best to wait.
2016-05-17 09:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by mable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I am marrying the man I lost my virginity to. We are in love and I couldn't imagine a better person to give it to even if we were not getting married.
2007-05-13 12:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Danialle K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for a picosecond... And you *are* still pure! ... Anyone saying different "misses" just how *natural* sex is. ... There are legions of guys out there who couldn't care less about your virginity, plus guys like me who cherish experience infinitely more than lack thereof.
Sex is just *too darned nice* to miss because of others' hang-ups! ... (And many men can be faithful, but you could also consider an open marriage.)
2007-05-13 11:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone sins.
If you habitually sin, in direct defiance of GOD's will, then there is a price to pay.
GOD IS NOT MOCKED
God sees the heart and the motives, GOD sees the TRUE BELIEVER.
Everyone makes mistakes.
If a person thinks that all they have to do is "ask forgiveness" and all will be well , then they are mocking GOD.
There is a price to pay for mocking GOD.
GOD SEES THE HEART.
If you struggle not to sin, but sin anyway, GOD sees your struggle and respects that.
If you sin , THINKING YOU HAVE A LICENSE, then there is a price to pay.
GOD IS NOT MOCKED
Struggle against sin continuously.
JESUS BLESS YOU.
dave
2007-05-13 11:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by dave777 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't. I waited till I was Married. Not because of religion either but cause I didn't know what I wanted to do in life so I didn't want to get stuck.
2007-05-13 11:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by bongobeat25 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having sex has no effect on apparent levels of "purity" in your body. Your blood will be no more toxic to your liver after having sex than it was before. Your lung function will still be the same. Everything else is unimpaired, though your heart will have had some excellent exercise and your serotonin levels will make you feel good.
So I recommend more sex for you. You sound like a typical person trying to deny themselves the kind of things that make being alive worthwhile.
2007-05-13 11:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Bad Liberal 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sex is magnificent. (And if it's not, you're with the wrong person, find another.) Our bodies need it to function properly. And our psyches generally do better with it as well.
If you want to consider sex sacred, then honor it by only having sex with people you respect and care for who also respect and care for you. Be wise in it, but don't deny it.
Men can be faithful. Honor your sexuality and your physicality be learning to trust and to enjoy.
2007-05-13 11:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a woman. Whatever befalls me, I cannot regret. What I am to God cannot be diminished. He gave me this form for my use, however, wisdom does not precede that usage. Wisdom comes afterwards. I accept my fate.
2007-05-13 11:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
losing virginity seems less the issue here. what seems more pertinent is that you assert that men cannot be faithful. this is simply untrue. perhaps you should look at the history of your decision making with a little scrutiny independent of your virginity. we are rarely without fault for the things that continually occur in our lives.
2007-05-13 11:31:46 · answer #10 · answered by bluebear 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋