i feel i need to be crying and really sad! but i feel the insane urge to laugh and smile....im sad that they died, i really am...but why do i feel this way? am i just very shocked...? its really weird...i feel like its a good thing cause they're in a better place and it's not a bad thing that they died....
2007-05-13 11:06:40 · 25 answers · asked by kitties! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
~HUG~ People grieve in different ways. There is no correct way to grieve the loss of someone.
Was this person sick for a long time? if so then they are in a better place.
I personally prefer to smile and think of all the good times I shared with that person and not the sad times.
I am sorry for your loss but I dont think there is any text book way to grieve.
2007-05-13 11:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your under the age of 15. Your reaction is normal, You have been taught that they are in a better place( True.) But your also very sad because they are no longer there for you, And you miss them terribly. The reason for the
Insane urge to laugh,Is because memories of all the good times that you had together and the sadness of your loss is welling up at the same time. There is your cause.. The best thing that you can do for them right now is take the lessons that they taught you( All the good advice.) And add it to your life. Remember them in your heart and they will always be with you.. I hope that helps you..
2007-05-13 18:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty normal to be blocking the pain with other feelings, but at some point you will feel sad, but its important that you let those feelings out when they come. If you are feeling relief for the person as they died of an illness, then that is a very good thing that you can look past the sorrow you are feeling to feel good that the person is no longer in pain.
2007-05-13 21:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good day I feel like that sometimes but it's OK go with the moment.I loss my mom I'm glad she doesn't have to suffer anymore.It hurts real bad but I don't want to be selfish so I just live in the moment sometimes I laugh when I think of the good times and other times I cry cause I miss her.But to me that's a good thing cause she is not suffering anymore.I also had a little grief counseling.I pray that I answer your question God bless you.Try not to feel sad.
2007-05-13 18:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by Glennie Pea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is you are human. Your mind is in denial, your body in shock and the rest of you is just confused.
My father died. I went to mother's place to mow the lawn. The mower was out of gas and I couldn't find the gas can. That was it. I was so confused I didn't realize that two blocks away I could buy some gasoline. I was completely shut down.
This feeling will be with you for a while. Do the best you can and be a little bit patient. Your mind and body will sort it out and you will eventually be OK. It took me about two months to get myself straightened out enough that I could sort data and make calculated decisions based on that data.
If you are still a mess in 6 months, I suggest you see a grief counselor.
2007-05-13 18:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the correct term is called a "monstrous joy," meaning that, despite your feeling shocked at the death, you find some part of the experience to feel happy about.
I guess it's all right to feel that way; not everyone deals with things in the same way. Perhaps you're just hysterical at the moment and need time for things to sink in.
2007-05-13 18:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually what you are feeling is normal so don't worry.
Feeling sad is normal in this situation - obviously - but so is the need to laugh - it is your minds way of protecting your heart. (more or less) I'm sure there is a more technical way of putting it.
Not everyone morns in the same way but they still morn all the same. A lot depends on how close you were to the person also.
2007-05-13 18:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people take death differently, but you are right. Sometimes no matter how sad it may sound, some people are better off that way.You are probably confused. You might cry later when you think about it, or you have a great memory and miss that person. You are gonna be fine.
2007-05-13 18:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by Heather D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother died when I was 11. I remember that the day she died my sister and I cried at first, but later we went on a bike ride and when we ran into people we would tell them that our mother died but in an oddly giddy way.
Personally I think it's because when you lose someone that you love it's completely surreal, and it takes time to get use to the idea that their really gone.
I'm sorry for your loss and hang in there
2007-05-13 18:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by lauren c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first you don't relize what happened. But at the same time you do. Actually you are handeling quite well. Your sad, but there is no reason to grief. Everyone dies. Just move on, like you seem to be doing just fine.
2007-05-13 18:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋