Well I do to some extend. But I know that if I get too clingy or nosy and basically rely on them as friends-things might get messy, as you don't mix business with pleasure. I hang out with them once in a while and chat with them-but for some reason I can't bring myself to open more up with them, or actually call them to talk or hang out-for I guess fear that they can back stab me. There is a group and I hang out with them sometimes, but I'm not piont blank with them 24/7-sometimes I wish I was...like they go to someone's party and yap about it and plan stuff and I don't know ; sometimes I'm happy I can set boundaris but still communicate. What do you think?
2007-05-13 10:48:03 · 10 answers · asked by Cherryberry 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am friends with my co- workers but only hang out with one on a regular basis.
Sometimes i get fairly annoyed cuz I'm not as patient as I'd like and his energy is overwhelming occasionally.
I think it is wonderful to set boundaries, but i think you will miss out on some prime opportunities and least of all some major fun.
Take a chance if you wish; just set boundaries within your group of co-workers and friendships choosing when to hang what to get serious about and when to hold back.
2007-05-13 10:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dave S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adult co-workers usually don't "call to talk" and the like. If a coworker of yours received a call at home at 8pm from you "just to talk" or gab about this and that, they'd probably think it was out of the ordinary. Also, what in the world do you want to "open more up with them" about? Are you planning on telling them your feelings about things and sharing your personal life with them?
Co-workers that are friends are basically just people you interact with on a daily basis and need to develop cordial relationships with. So, you interact at employee functions and behave in a friendly manner with them. If you want to, you can socialize after work for "happy hours" and the like as well.
It is only rarely that really close friends will come out of the work environment, and usually you don't find out which ones those are until after one of you leaves the employ of the company you both worked at.
For political reasons at work you want to be part of the general social circle and be thought well of. It is VERY often that the person who gets the raise and the promotion is the person who is viewed favorably by the boss. So, that means towing the line between proper socializing with coworkers and being a party animal or too intimate with them. If you are viewed as a social butterfly, that is a negative thing in the workplace, usually. If you are viewed as a personable, friendly person who is good at managing relationships at work, and who focuses on work, then you will likely do better.
2007-05-13 19:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitly need to set some boundaries when hanging out with co-workers when the gathering is not like an office gathering. When you open yourself up to people you work for, and they know all the dirt going on in your life, then chances are when you get annoyed with them, or pissed off at them for something they have done, you tned to not really want to confront them about it because they know all your business
Furthermore, you can't really tell how much you can trust these people so its probally best to just not tell them to much about your personal life. Next thing you know, if they get ticked by something you've done, the whole office is going to know your business, because of that one person you have be-friended. I say keep it professionally friendly and that's it. Get a circle of friends, outside of work.
2007-05-13 18:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Nychole D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through the years I have done things with some of my friends outside of work but most of them went to bars so I didn't participate in many of their outside activites since I'm a Christian and don't drink. You do have to be careful with many people who love to cause trouble or gossip about others so that is wise on your part to limit these activities unless you are comfortable with it.
In years past, I had friends to my place and went to theirs until we eventually drifted off to other jobs or someone moved away. I retired a few years ago on disability and still keep in touch with two very good friends that I worked with several years ago. I live in another state now so only get to see them when I go home but we still email each other occasionally and talk on the phone to keep up on things.
I guess it depends on if they are casual friends or good friends :) Do what feels right for you and when you make those good friends, you can then enjoy going with them and inviting them over.
2007-05-13 18:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely. Its fun to hang out with co-workers....just make sure like you say you CAN set boundaries and that there is a professional line drawn.
2007-05-13 17:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by vibrantverse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never trust a co worker enough to be a true friend. Unless it is a high school or college job then that is different.
2007-05-13 17:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i do. I met my boyfriend at work, he was my supervisor and we started off as cruising buddy's and i fell head over heels in love with him and he with me. All good
Cheers.
2007-05-13 20:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by trevshez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries
2007-05-13 17:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by JOHN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are smart. Business and Pleasure should be separate.
2007-05-13 18:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do, but work is work.
2007-05-13 18:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋