My boyfriend and i have been together for nearly a year.Well almost,as we split up for around 6 months.We're just as in love now as we were before the split.We had been intimate,but not as intimate as he got when he went on the rebound with an older girl...as he slept with her.He now says he regrets rushing things,and even being with her.We're building our relationship back up,and it's going well,but just the other day he asked me for oral.He had never asked before,and i think it's something to do with the girl...i think i'll just let him wait a while longer...surely then he'll just want me even more?Why is he trying to rush it again anyway?
2007-05-13 10:05:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't give him anything at all UNTIL you know this relationship even has a chance. By the looks of what you wrote, this relationship is not stable as you both were broken up for 6 months out of 12 months and during this time he was with someone else.
BEFORE you decide to have ANY type of sex with him, have him go for STD testing. Don't take his word that he used a condom or whatever. He doesn't know where this other woman last encounter was and ... you are next in line.
If he refuses testing ... then don't go any further. This is not a game of "holding out because he will like me more." This is real life and you need to protect yourself FIRST and foremost. You want to see the test results!
Learn now or forever hold your fingers from posting regarding STD's.
2007-05-13 10:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he feels that since you two have been through so much and he thinks he loves you that perhaps oral is ok and better than giving him the full monty of sex. If it's something you're not into and you don't think it's right you should explain it to him. Ask him why he feels the need? Make him explain himself to you and then make him understand how you feel. I don't know if it has anything to do with the other girl, but perhaps he wants to know how he feels about you in an intimate situation and he only has the other girl to compair it to. That isn't good either.
Just tell him how you feel. If he respects you he'll understand.
2007-05-13 10:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by lauraking83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"but you give them only vague bitterness and a bit of poetry when you can afford to drain your insides without caving your own head in." This makes a statement I've been wanting to SCREAM for a while now. EDIT: And I think of writers block as the brain and soul's inability to drain. When I feel too much I can't let it go. So I think I need to take a break from writing. Heh.
2016-05-17 08:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember you are dealing with a guy here. Asking for oral is not rushing things according to his opinion, although for you it is. Don't give in so quickly. However, there are two possible scenarios... one, you'll leave him wantin more and this will make him think of you all the time (which is good)... or two, he'll get tired of asking things from you when he expects you to do them without having to ask, which eventually will lead to separation. Good luck! If you don't wanna go down on him, don't do it.
2007-05-13 10:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Horumaket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the reason you guys split up was because things were not moving as quickly as he wanted,but he was afraid to ask you to step things up.In my opinion,go ahead and give him a little oral action,it might make things even better.And don't forget,whats good for him is good for you too.You never know what that older girl may have taught him:).
2007-05-13 10:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting sure makes him go crazy for u... he'll want you even more and badly. And maybe when you start giving it to him, restrict giving him all the time.
Less is more. Enjoy :)
2007-05-13 10:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Laetishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth i would say leave him because if he really loveed you he wouldnt ask you for oral or nothing and if you guys split up for 6 months and he got an other girla nd he slept with her . . . and left her so he got what he wanted and left her. . . hwats not to say hell do it again ? . . . with you? . . . becare ful and talk to him about it and make sure that its what your heart wants?
2007-05-13 10:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by i love him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol it does have something to do with a girl but guys can do it with guys too! its called conversation! if its written its called a letter or note! u guys should really oral more othen! lol
2007-05-13 10:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probabl thinks that U have forgiven him.
SO do it .talk it over together.He doesn't need UR forgiveness for stuff that happened during UR breakup.
2007-05-13 10:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by Klingon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your planning on getting something out of it, thats called prostitution. But if you want to do it for him, thats different.
2007-05-13 10:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by caucasian_monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋