My boyfriend and i spent nearly a year building up a strong,loving relationship.We had been intimate,but didn’t feel the need to rush things,just taking things as it came.However, we had a big fight, and I split up with him.We both rebounded.He rebounded with an older girl,who just happened to be a girl I strongly dislike and vice versa.Around 2 weeks later,he had sex with her once when drunk,and used protection.It really upset me,however,I still loved him and we decided to try and make it work.We’ve working through things,and I believe we’ll get there.He said he completely regrets being with the other girl.I know how much he loves me.But we’ve been back together three weeks,and he recently asked me to give him oral.He hasn’t asked before,and I suspect it may to be because he did with the girl.I do want to but don’t want it to be rushed.Will ir tuin things or being us closer?He said he didn’t want to rush things,so what’s going on?
2007-05-13 08:58:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i meant *will it ruin things or bring us closer?
2007-05-13 09:00:55 · update #1
ask him why he has never asked you before and why he is asking you now........if you dont like to give oral then dont if you like giving oral then just go for it.......... its weird but a lot of relationships have sex for the longest time and never have oral.... alot of the time oral is broght in to the relationship is because the trust....... i didnt give my boyfriend oral in till like 5 months of dating........ and we had sex on the first date.......it was just that the confednce and trust was there...........you never know in till you ask him ......... it could be because of the girl, maybe a friend said something to him about how he wasnt having oral, or he saw something in a porn he liked and now he wants you to try it on him.... you never know in till you ask.... after you ask him and trust his answer.... tell him your feallings and then tell him that you want to take it slow(if that what you really want)
2007-05-13 09:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be right in saying that he probably has been having oral sex with this older woman. But DONT you do it.
If you love him the best thing to do is to deny him. Your respect will remain intact and he will work even harder to gain your heart. If you do not go downtown he will always want you. Continue to give the relationship an honest try. But dont do anything you dont want to. Do it if you want to but know he may respect you less.
Don't take the low road. Keep the relationship on your pace. This way you will feel as if you are in control. Let him earn it. He will appreciate it more.
2007-05-13 16:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Brookyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOnt try to rush things just take things as it comes..tell the guy that you dont want to do something that u dont want to .....and you dont wanna be called the schools slut... now would you now.. just wait till the times right... and your first time should always be passionate..... just follow your heart
2007-05-13 16:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by desigurl9046 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, tough question. I would wait until things settle down though and both of you are comfortable in being in a relationship again.
2007-05-13 16:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Laurenbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should do things in your own time, even if you've been together before you sorta starting over and things should be done when your ready just like before.
2007-05-13 16:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cait 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You been with him for a year and no sex.
OMG, I could easily taken advantage of him in that situation because I know how to appreciate what life has to offer.
2007-05-13 16:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are. If you are going to be with him, then he sexual side of the relationship needs to be there (if you are old enough)
I would not have gotten back together with him, but that is your choice.
2007-05-13 16:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by dab1121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, you guys just got back togther, CHILL take it slow!
Also, I think you should ask him what he did with the other girl, you dont wanna just be his toy!
2007-05-13 16:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jolean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should back away from him cuz the day that u dont want to give him oral he'll go looking for that somewhere where he will get it eventually he'll cheat on you move on!!!
2007-05-13 16:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By dining out, you learn to eat new dishes (recipes) so my dear WHO is to blame that he won some experience..?
So it´s up to you...
2007-05-13 16:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Happy Feet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋