we are talking on a daily basis, and she agreed to have a vacation together this summer. what can i say or do to leave a lasting impression.
2007-05-13 08:41:15 · 15 answers · asked by Sami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
usually when a girl is out of an abusive relationship, she has a big gap in her self esteem thinking that she is not worthy of a healthy loving relationship, your job here is to make her feel unconditionally loved and appreciated, to make her believe she deserves better than she got, and to give her an emotional charge to be able to recover the bad thing she has been through ...
whatever your intentions were, please be careful because what you will do now will change her life forever and maybe yours... so please be so kind and expect some bad reactions she might do because she was hurt and it is so normal that she is oversensitive for the time being but the good news are that after you help her get over this you will discover the best part in her and whatever happened between you two she will always look up to you and appreciate your help
2007-05-13 09:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend - she needs that more than anything. A friendship is the core to deeper relationship anyway. Put yourself in her place - if you had something bad happen to you, you would appreciate a good friend.
Even if you never become more than friends, you will have done the right thing by being there for her. Give her plenty of time (at least several months) and maybe you can tell her how you feel.
2007-05-13 08:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be good to her be yourself dont try too hard but make the trip something she will never forget try to make her laugh for everytime she cried make her happy for everytime she hurt be a friend that got her back do little things like throw jokes play games have inside jokes that u will be in a room and u and her will have yall own thing going on BE HONEST whatever u do remember she been through alot be honest even when it hurts she needs that dont have her playing guessing games treat her with worth because she may have forgot what her worth i promise u she will love u and she will come to u when she cant let others in TRUST ME I USE TO BE THAT GIRL 3 years i was in a abusive realationship but anyway back to u have her in a good heart and if it works out she maybe afraid to let you go because she may never come across someone like u again
I HOPED I HELPED
MAKE YOUR NEXT MOVE YOUR BEST MOVE
2007-05-13 09:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by DEFINE WHAT LUV IS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all dont say that you will never hit her yell at her any of that stuff she has heard it all before. ok second you are dealing with a woman that is still hurting and taking a trip with her will not hurt or make it better the reason why is you want her to trust you but she has this felling in her that will not let her trust you for now . to her trust will be gain at her speed not yours let her come up with almost all the ideas like trips and dates becouse you will remind her of her ex or some one else in her pass. like some one else said she is verry delicate right now , take your time ad make sure she does to, and you also have to make sure that she is over him just becouse he hit her and did all tham things to her does not mean that she does not have feelings for him trust me i speak from expirience.
2007-05-13 09:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by erick p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are usually vulnerable in situations like this. If you are going on a vacation with her, I wouldn't make a move. Chances are she will, and then she will feel bad about it afterwards. So, uhh.. when she makes that move, tell her how you feel.
2007-05-13 08:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by v boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open with her. Tell her you would never dream of hurting her. and if you are ever making her uncomfortable with something that you are doing to tell you and you will stop because you care about her too much to see her hurt again. or something along those lines.
2007-05-13 08:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by newyorkrbust2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's been thorough alot. So the best thing to do is to just be there for her.Show her how much you care for her, and that with stick with her for along time.
2007-05-13 08:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by tibosskid2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, buddy. Instead, avoid her like herpes. Otherwise, you will become the next green eyed ogre the next time she becomes unhappy in the relationship. Then you will be liable for civil and criminal actions against you. She will rape your wallet and you will be castrated in open court by the judge. So, avoid this loser. She is tainted meat.
2007-05-13 08:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by sopcwebservant 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Treat her like a princess. Show her how special she is and she'll surely be impressed!
2007-05-13 08:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by dsmith21345 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her affection and be sweet to her.
do the total opposite of what the other guy did.
its as simple as that, and oh maybe give her some space.
2007-05-13 08:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by megg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋