Like all those years you took care of them and all love you gave them. All the money you spent on them and all the happiness between you guys. When they decide to move out do u feel like they dont want you anymore? Do you feel like they would rather be alone then to be with you? Wut are your feelings when a child of yours moves out and possibly plans to move out to the other side of the country?
2007-05-13 07:58:53 · 11 answers · asked by ForYou,WithYou 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I only hope I will be able to raise my children to become self-reliant, independent, successful adults! I would be very proud of them if they were able to move out of my home, support themselves, and follow their dreams...no matter where that moves them!! (as long as they remember to email or call!)
2007-05-13 09:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have another factor to this scenario, of course a child will move on and yes you should be proud, but what about when a child goes to live with a aunt (my sister) who is filled with devious doings (and he knows it) but because in her early 60's she still is a party person and loves being a friend to her boys instead of a mother or a good role model, she takes every sneaky opportunity to tell dirty little secrets leaned her way and has a daughter who sent someone to jail over 80% lies and is extremely evil and comes & goes in the household, my son knows the way I feel about this whole household, yet remains there..I am hurt and DO feel betrayed, but I am learning to harden my heart and move on...so sad as my son & I were always so close...but I have to harden as he just doesn't care ....there are all different stories people
2013-09-21 04:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Huyvot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids aren't of that age yet but you know what? I would be thrilled that my kids would be able to experience a new culture. I'd be thrilled that they were going some where exciting and succeeding in life! I'm parenting my children now so that they will move out and be successful. This isn't because I want them to go but because I know that's what they need to do.
My mother moved to Panama with my dad. My grandma was overjoyed of the exciting experience. The lived twenty years overseas visiting home about ten times. My grandparents couldn't have been happier for them.
When I first moved out of my parents house I lived in New Mexico they were in Ohio and had just moved there from Germany. Now I'm living in Florida. My parents couldn't be more happy for me. It's not because they are selfish but because they knew that was the reason they were parenting me.
I think a child moving away means that a parent was extremely successful . Thier children somehow have set their expectations high enough to dream big dreams then live them. How exciting?
2007-05-13 08:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why would any parent feel betrayed, because their grown child decides to move out and possible to the other side of the country. They are grownups and do not have to answer to their parents anymore and parents should respect that even though their child loves them dearly, their child needs to live their lives the way they see fit.
2007-05-13 08:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
My oldest is only 12, but I can tell you that i feel like it is my job to make sure that one day she can do just that. I am the oldest of 4 children from my parents, the only one who doesn't live with them (currently ages 24, 32, 33, and 35). One lives there with her family-husband 2 kids, 2 step kids. I can tell you also that some parents DO feel that way as I am sort of an outcast BECAUSE I moved away on my own.
2007-05-13 08:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by Betsy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My oldest is 26 years old and he moved out when he was 20 years old. It was heartwrenching for me at first. I wondered what he was doing at all times of the day but then I had to let it go and let him get on with his life.
I realized that although my child was leaving the nest, he wasn't leaving from my heart. I worry about him, as all mothers would when a child is away but I keep in mind that he loves me.
You cannot look at all the sacrafices that you made for your child would make him/her stay home. During the years that they were home, were years for instructions for life without you. Teaching them to be independent, trustworthy, loving, etc...
Did you stay home for the rest of your life with your parents?
2007-05-13 11:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my daughter is 20 and still lives with me for the moment, but I always told myself that she will move out one day, and now that she is grown up, well, it cant be too far off now. To be honest yes I will be really sad when she moves out, but that is what we raise our kids for, to be strong, well adjusted and independent adults. Sooner or later they always return home or nearby when they realise that we never really stop needing our parents. You really shouldnt feel bad, it just means that you did a good job bringing up your child, it would be worse if they were 40, unemployed and still sponging off you.
2007-05-13 10:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by Pauline N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think there any easy answers to this question. i ask myself the same thing just about everyday. my daughter is 17 and will be going to college soon. i don't know if she will stay at home or move away. i dread it. but i know that she, as well as her brothers will always need me. kids have to move on and make their own lives. children never stop needing their parents.
just be happy that you have raised a strong and independent person.
2007-05-13 08:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Charmed One♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-09 18:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by chiado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you, i have 5 children i do not look forward to them leaving but they will grow up and have a life, my children owe me nothing, i would be happy for them, i want my children to be happy and self sufficient, that is ridiculas, a parent that feels that way will certainly loose there children no wonder they would want to move so far away, trying to get the guilt trip far away from themselves, you do not love and raise your child with a price tag attached, that is nuts
2007-05-13 09:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by melissa s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋