people say anxiety attacks are caused by sress ive had lots of stess and worry in the past including abuse?

Question

by my ex and then my last partner commited suicide i am 35 and happy in a new relationship of now 3yrs so why didnt i have anxiety attacks then but now im happy and stable and on my 4th child im having them i haven dealt wiv my past i just blocked it out and carried on and didnt talk to no one i did use to drink most nites to cope i dont drink now but these attacks of panick do worry me ive only had them the past 7wks

Answer 1

Please see your doctor for help.

Answer 2

I was suffering from panic attacks brought on by what the doctor described as " social anxiety disorder " , along with some general anxiety. I went through a nasty divorce , followed a bankruptcy caused by the divorce, and followed by a nervous breakdown . I took at the booze, and drank like a fish until 1998, when I asked God to take this all away, the desire for it & cigatettes & over dosing on nerve pills. I have been sober & smokeless since 1998, and now am remarried to a wonderful woman who is understanding of my baggage. I take paxil + a mild dose of valium, and am really doing well. With you, maybe there are things that happened in the past that are making you think it might happen again in the relationship you are in now. If you need medication, discuss it with your husband about going to the doctor about your feelings. I discovered that you need to get everything dug out, and I really hope your husband is willing to face this with you, because without his support, it will be harder. I use the medication the way I am supposed to, so I feel pretty good, plus I now realize my limitations, stress-wise.

Answer 3

It could be a post traumatic stress disorder, you said you haven't discussed or faced the abuse, you buried it. Now, those thoughts that haven't been dealt with, are coming back to haunt you. You must face the past, accept what has happened, decide to not allow yourself to be involved in relationships that are destructive, and move on with your life,and your new child. You said you used to drink to cope, so obviously you were struggling with the issues at hand, and weren't facing them head on. Now, you know better, you have matured and grown emotionally and mentally. What are your panic attacks regarding? Death of your current partner? The partner leaving you with several children? Whatever is on your mind now, must be dealt with. Don't bury your emotions again, let your partner help you through difficult times.

Answer 4

Bernadette you have answered your own question- you blocked it out and didn't talk to anyone. Its only when we can slow down and are having some stability that these things often surface. You are very vulnerable too with your hormones all over the place so that is the most probable reason for these attacks. Go and see your GP and ask to see a counseller who will talk your through your traumas- your are right now in a fantastic position to come through this ok. You just need to deal with the past issues effectively, put them to rest and then enjoy your fantastic new life- believe me honey i have been there.
All the best
Libs

Answer 5

If you haven't dealt with them, you need to do that before things get even worse.

One thing that helped me when I finally dealt with my past was writing my thoughts down. By getting my story down on paper and reading / reliving some of it, I was able to deal with the things that had happened, cried a river of tears for one summer as I continued to make notes and then I put it behind me and started getting involved with some people at church and helping others. I was able to heal, mainly from writing things down. Once I did that all that, I shredded the papers and made up my mind to put it behind me.

We have to remember that things in our past can hurt us only if we drown in self-pity and keep thinking about it. We should learn from the experience but it should never be a part of our every day life where we end up getting depressed and sick from it.

When you feel the attacks coming, sit back with some soft music, close your eyes and think of all the blessings you have in your life and all the things that make you happy. Think of the silly things you've done with others, the things that made you laugh until you cried and all the love you have shared with others.

We control our own emotions or we let them control us. I chose to control them so I could find happiness again and put the pain behind me. I sure hope and pray you can do the same thing. I wish you well, just remember to love yourself :)

Answer 6

it could be due to a past-life memory (cell memery)when illnesses ooccur at an age when sth terrible happens 2 us at the exact same age in a previous life (if u believe in past-lives!)
past-life regression (hypnosis) might help.

also I used crystal therpay to heal my panic atavks, it really helped me, but it's very important to cleanse crystals (upon receiving) & every few weeks or so by placing in brown rice (u can eat the rice after) for 24 hours. For panic attcks, get a piece of SODALITE crysytal, (Ebay sells them) & place it on wherever u get panic attacks, for me they were gone within 5-15 minute period (also remember 2 breathe again if u can although it's diffcult when u r having an attack

Answer 7

Hi there, I just laugh about my past 3 years of panic now. I was not able to go anywhere without carrying xanax. Fear of having another attack was the most important subject of my days.When i first found joe barry's web site i started to cry because of my happiness.

Free audio to end anxiety and panic attacks fast?

Answer 8

Hi, please try the links below to the Mind website, they offer easy to read and understand information:

Understanding Anxiety
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+anxiety.htm

How to cope with Panic Attacks
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/How+to/How+to+cope+with+panic+attacks.htm

Troubleshooter for Panic Attacks
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Other/Mindtroubleshooterspanicattacks.htm

Hopefully these will help you to understand more about the causes and symptoms of anxiety and panic attacks.

I'm not qualified and don't know enough to be able to say if your current anxiety and panic is related to past events but it could be possible that now you are in a more stable and secure situation it is the right time to look at and deal with what has happened.

Sometimes we can carry ourselves through the most horrendous of events and find the strength from somewhere to just 'get on with it', and then it's only afterwards that it really hits us, what we have been through and dealt with at the time.

A bit like aftershock, I suppose.

It would be a good idea to talk to your GP about how you feel now, and he/she may be able to offer some advice or even refer you on to specialist services that may help:

Understanding Talking Treatment:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+talking+treatments.htm

but it is worth bearing in mind that in the UK there is a long waiting list for people seeking this kind of treatment. 6 to 7 months in my area for a priority appointment!!

It would be a good idea to see if there is a local mental health charity nearby that you could access:

http://www.mind.org.uk/Mind+in+your+area/

as they offer informal help, support and information and some even offer there own counselling services. They are easy to access, it only takes a phone call.

There is help and support available, if you know where to look for it.

Try to see this as positive, you now are in a position to look at the past and deal with it, while knowing that you are secure and safe while you do it.

It will be hard, but it can be done, and it will be worth the effort and hard work. Just remember that you don't have to do it alone.

Take care and good luck.

Answer 9

I think the answer is in your question. You blocked out most of the horror, and tried to blank out the rest with alcohol while trying to carry on. Now that you are happy, these suppressed events are still in the dark closet and are wanting out.

I hope you will find the strength to see a doctor.

All the best. xx

Answer 10

YES i had the worst anxiety attack the one time i tried it. It gives you a feeling of no control which triggers anxiety. People with anxiety need the feeling of being in control of themselves, if not they will go into an attack. Ugh, thought it would help me but oh y god i will never do it again. I was ont he floor crying wiating for it to end

Answer 11

You probably need counceling and to see a doctor.
Councelling would probably be a better choice than medication because no matter what you take this problem will still ALWAYS be there underneath. You need to deal with what happend b4 so you can move on otherwise it will eat you away inside! good luck.