Hi, I am wondering if I should throw a party for my friend that is getting married. We all live across the country and I know she is not going to be planning on having this event. (I am a bridesmaid).
We are from the same city and a lot of our friends live there still. (neither of us live there anymore, but can get there) I was thinking about doing a small party for her, but My question is, can I invite our old co workers to this party even though they were not sent invites to the wedding? I dont know if i would technically call it a "shower" or "Bachelorette Party", I would like to just get all the girls together and celebrate.
I would not even expect them to all bring gifts if they didnt want to ... what do you think??
I have been to bachelorette parties before, and have not been invited to the wedding, and I was not offended.... any opinions or advice?
I would just like to do something nice for her. :)
2007-05-13 07:12:19 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In the past it was customary to invite only those who are also going to the wedding (not all of them, of course), because (1) the one person at the shower not invited to the actual wedding would probably feel like crap surrounded by all the other future wedding-goers and (2) because who the heck wants to give the crummy bride a gift when you're not even invited to the wedding?
Nowadays, it's acceptable to invite people not on the wedding list but who nonetheless wish the bride well – like coworkers -- so that they might participate in the celebration. Again, though, make sure you know the bride's preferences on inviting non-wedding guests so she's not placed in a potentially awkward situation.
With that said, at a shower friends get together and celebrate the bride and upcoming marriage, (which is usually held during the day) presents are usually expected; a bachelorette party is friends getting together to celebrate the bride's last days of being a single woman (usually held in the evening) and gifts are not usually expected. I hope this helped!
2007-05-13 07:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For a bridal shower, etiquette says that all the woman who are invited to the wedding are invited to the shower. The bachelorette party--well, there is no etiquette, so invite anyone you want, but don't forget the in laws. If you're worried about people being out of town. Invite them anyway, let them make the decision if they can or cannot come. Sometimes its just nice to be invited.
2007-05-16 06:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by katmusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a shower, only those invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. If it is a bachelorette party, I guess you can invite anyone and no gifts required. Since you are a bridesmaid, why not have a shower and invite people, who are invited to the wedding? Of course, if she already has set up a household with kitchen items and other household items of all kinds, then she doesn't need those kinds of gifts. You could then throw her a "personal shower" for clothing, lingerie, toiletries, cosmetics, etc.
2007-05-13 07:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by djlorir 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely rude to invite someone to a pre-wedding party like a shower or bachelorette and then NOT invite them to a wedding.
If you host one of these parties you can only invite wedding invitees to it.
2007-05-14 02:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, it rather is strange. it is totally impolite to ask human beings to the bridal bathe/bachelorette occasion and not the marriage. the two the bride is carefully clueless approximately common etiquette or she's in basic terms searching for greater presents devoid of having to shell out greater funds to feed human beings on the marriage day. i does not pass.
2016-10-05 00:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only the wedding guests should be invited to the wedding and nothing else is acceptable . you should with tradition there is something to be said for it .
2007-05-13 08:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋