i have been married to her son for a yr now.....
and i dnt know but she is really annoying...
we live with my inlaws only coz they are old and we have to take care of them (he is 72 and she is 60).......in their house....i mean my hubby is a doctor (3rd yr residency) so we can like afford a place of our own.........
no my question us since the day we got married she never let us go alone anywhere.........i mean we didnt even go on our honeymoon yet!!
every vacation my hubby gets she wants to go to her daughter's place in georgia and spend every vacation there........
even on weekends she won't let us go out by ourselves!!!she has to go with us even to he night clubs!!! i mean for god's sake she is 60!
this vacation we r going to georgia again...but i want to go somewhere else next vacation WITHOUT them...........howfdo i tell her that? i mean she gets upset like a little kid....
a few months ago me and my hubby were planning a four day vacation to go to LA and have fun....she got so
2007-05-13 04:57:34 · 11 answers · asked by Just another gal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
upset that she called her daughter and askes her to stop us.........and as a result we didnt go..
its like when we try to have s.e.x. at like 10:00 at night there she is calling my name and asking me to come out just to tell me to switch off the lights b4 going to sleep...)i am not tlike a 10yr old..i know what to do?)..........plz help me how to handle this situation
2007-05-13 04:59:41 · update #1
my husband doesnt like this either!! he is sick of her too...but they r old and we have to take care of them!!
2007-05-13 05:02:23 · update #2
my husband told them 4-5 times...but she gets upset like a 6 yr old.......!
2007-05-13 05:06:57 · update #3
Your husband needs to grow a backbone and put a stop to this nonsense. Sounds like you married a wimpy mama's boy. Your in laws are not the real problem, your husband is.
And your mother in law sounds pretty capable if she is going out all the time and on vacations so why do they need taking care of?
If you want any kind of life you will move out. But Im betting your little boy hubby wont.
2007-05-13 05:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a serious meeting with your husband. He says he doesn't like it , but yet he puts up with it. Your marriage will not work if this continues. Tell him you want him to take out yet another loan( since I am sure you are indebt from med school) to care for his parents. Either have a caretaker come in their home or send them to senior residence. THIS HAS TO STOP. He is in denial that she is manipulating him and probably sick. I think you too, are in denial since you are continuing this what I call travesty. You two do not have a married life and I feel very sorry for you. Can you go look for a place TODAY to move to? Best wishes
2007-05-13 05:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't explain what kind of taking care of them it is that you and your husband do. My parents are 60 and 61 and they don't require any taking care of. If your in-laws are medically disabled, you might want to hire a part time nursing assistant to help look after their medical needs. This way you and your husband can move out (and on). From what you said about your MIL going out to clubs with you, she probably isn't disabled. It seems like she is using you as a maid and for entertainment purposes.
Your husband needs to put his foot down when it comes to his parents. He needs to grow a spine and have a talk with his parents about the situation. You two need to move out and your in-laws need to take up hobbies or become involved in their community or local senior center. By the way, I understand why the sister lives in Georgia, lol. Good luck!
2007-05-13 05:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by DSMUFFIN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to let them know that you are his wife and you both need a life of your own and time alone. If she wants to go to Georgia, take her to her daughters, and fly to L.A. and let the daughter take care of her. If you can get her there, spend your vacation where you want, and make sure she makes it there safely. You both need a vacation, and definitely a honeymoon, that is not her call. There are homes that offer assisted living. Have you looked into that? Your husband needs to stand by his wife, and love his parents, but not make them part of his marriage. If you take her to Georgia and head to L.A. don't answer her cell phone calls immediately. Make her leave a message and decide if it is important enough to respond to.
2007-05-13 05:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, what are you having to do for them that they NEED you to live there so badly??
60 isnt OLD, so do they just put the guilt trip on your hubby?? You need to tell him that you need your own space, and that you married HIM, not his parents. They can hire a nurse to come by the house if that is what they really need, also there are retirement communities out there...
2007-05-13 07:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW i think its time for use to move out , get a place of your own ,i think your sister in law is very selfish by the sounds of it , let her take care of her parents for a change , you also need to get your husband to talk to his parents this could end up destroying your marriage ,
2007-05-13 05:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are not old at all. this is just a ploy. for what reason? i don't know. does it matter? your husband has to put his foot down and move out. they aren't feeble. my dad is nearly 79 and is in no way old or incapable of doing for himself. sounds like they are just looking for excuses to get you to do what they want.
2007-05-13 05:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband needs to be an adult and set boundaries with them. he may be their child, but he is a married adult now and you are his first priority. he needs to tell his mom flatout what is okay and what is not and be prepared for her to pout. i worry if things continue like this it will adversly affect your marriage. good luck.
2007-05-13 05:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it seem s u and ur husband and ur in laws should have a real talk about things and waht needs to be done to correct it
2007-05-13 05:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by bsy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh I feel for you. Has your husband talked to her yet? It would be better if it came from him.
2007-05-13 05:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋