Is that all there is?

Question

I really need help, I am afraid that I might commit sucide. Most of the time I am ok, but I get so low it seems like there is no hope. Is there anyone or anything that can help? I have pills and know how many it will take.

Answer 1

First, there is always hope. Read my older posts, the one pertaining to Drew.

Life ALWAYS gets better. I bet there is a moment in the past week or even month, a moment you are glad you were there for. Life isn't about the huge moments, the lightning flashes. But look back on a good belly laugh, a pretty day, good weather, a hug from a friend, a dog that snores...lots of things.

Ending it is forever. And whether you know God or not, suicide is a straight, fast path to Hell. Where you will miss today and your life.

Think about what you CAN do to make things better. What is bothering you? School? Family? Money problems? I bet there are things you can change, in some way. Beg to change schools or be homeschooled. Dump the girl. Get over the girl. Find another girl...whatever.

Go to church. There is no greater place to find love and support. It may take you a Sunday or two, but if you need love, respect, friendship, guidance and more than anything, loving support, go to church.

God bless you. God does promise us that He will never give us more than we can handle. Perhaps he is reaching out to you through your issues? If so, He's always reaching out to you to give you a good life, a promise of tomorrow.

I know it' sounds so lame, but there is so much truth in: This too, shall pass. Whatever is going on, there IS a better day ahead. This problem will pass. It truly will.

Answer 2

I note that you started by asking "is that all there is?" and I wondered what the "that" might be. I guess you're feeling that life is purposeless, meaningless, and that just getting up, getting through the day and going to bed seems a bleak picture for the rest of life.

I know from my own experience that when one feels like that, all the talk of love, relationships and happiness seems as if it's somewhere else, somewhere you just cannot be. That IS how it is for you at those low moments.

If there is any way you can find someone to talk to - a counsellor or psychotherapist would be ideal, but costs money, so the sort of friend who is able just to listen and not give you endless bits of useless advice would be a good bet too - then do make that phone call or e-mail or go round or whatever. This is not an instant 'cure'. It's just that if you have the time and space to really hear yourself saying how it is (and for some reason this seems not to work when speaking to oneself), you will probably begin to find some things you can hold onto. You'll learn (through your own insight) how to get through the bad bits and over time they'll get shorter. There was a time when I could hit rock bottom and stay there for months; these days, it's not that I never go to rock bottom but it lasts a few minutes or at very worst a few hours.

If there's no friend who fits the bill and no money for counselling/psychotherapy, try one of the many helplines. In the UK, the Samaritans are the best known, but there are many and you can find them online. And don't think about how you're going to manage tomorrow or the day after - try to focus on just getting through the next hour. And then the next.

And perhaps you can go out and take a real look at a flower or a freshly-leaved tree, or really look at an object in your room that you like (I mean for half an hour!! not 3 seconds). It's not the answer to life, the universe and everything, but it does help you get in touch with more of life and yourself.

Answer 3

I have been where you are now. I must tell you, you must get some help. I was hospitalized for 18 days. All I could think of is ending it, I wanted to be with Jesus. I found out in the hospital that ending my life was not the answer. It was an easy way out.
So many times, we believe the negative things we tell ourselves about ourselves. We put ourselves down and believe the thoughts we are thinking. It is important to know that thoughts are not facts. You are NOT what you think you are, or what others say you are, if another is putting you down.
Truly, you are a child of the King. You are meant to be here, Jason. Do you love those around you? Think about how much you would hurt them if you end up killing yourself. I have a husband, parents, brother and niece and nephew. I am Godmother to two children.
Negative thoughts can impact the way we live our life.
Someone once told me, and I do believe it is true, that what we tell ourselves we are telling our spirit. And, our spirit does not have the ability to filter out the bad thoughts about ourselves. That is why it is important to tell your spirit good thoughts. The more you tell yourself that you are an awesome and good person, the stronger you will become.
It may help you if you go and get some help. Are you a teenager? Tell your parents how you are feeling about hurting yourself. If you are an adult, find a therapist and psychiatrist, best if they are working in same clinic, and get some help.
You will see the sun again. You may contact me if you want to.

Answer 4

Friend, you need to reach out for some additional help right now. Ask someone to hold those pills for you, and tell this person about your feelings.

I am married to someone who has tried to commit suicide twice. There is a happy ending, because he got help -- the help you need. What I believe you need to do is to get to a doctor who will get you mental health treatment to get you over the worst right now.

You will probably need some medication and counseling, and you may need to get to the hospital for a little while, but you will get your life back.

Life is precious, and that means YOURS. Please go find some help today. Later on, please come back on here and write and let us know how you are doing.

Answer 5

regardless of how bad things might be for you right now, there is a way out. every problem has a solution, even if you can't see it right now. things will get better.

whenever you feel really low, call someone. doesn't really matter who it is. your friend, your mother, your bro/sis perhaps. just anyone that you can talk to really, about anything, don't have to talk to them about your issues. i don't know what area you live in, so i wouldn't know which helpline number you should call, but there must be something.

you are on here, so you must be wanting some help. go see your gp, and he/she will recommend someone for you to talk to, to help you though this difficult time.

remember, there is ALWAYS hope.

Answer 6

Just remember God loves you and only you can make a difference to how you feel - you always have a choice so choose to live it is worth it in the end because it is easy to give up but it takes faith and courage to go on

Answer 7

Please talk to someone. Everyone has gray days. I always remember the statement (not sure who said it) about suicide being a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Tomorrow will be better. Get yourself some help.

Answer 8

PLEASE GO TO A DOCTOR OR CALL 911 .