I did it yet again, inspite of him, cautioning me, making me nderstand the pros & cons i did this mistake yet again & this is not the first time. Earlier also we almost broke off due to this, my trying to search for a male friend as soon as we have a fight. I hurt him so much that he says he has absolutely no feelings for me now, but truthfully I dint do it with any intentions of betraying him, its my habit, a filthy habit, that I am ashamed of. I dint knw that my mistake this time would cost me so dearly. I love him a lot & i dont want to lose him but I dont even have the face to ask for pardon. He loved me a lot, he cared for me & kept me like a treasure yet I hurt him. He said my habit is so damaging that it will be more painful if we get married. There's no end to my penance, i hate myself. I am dying every moment, what do I do? where do I find peace? How can I stop him from leaving me? How can I bring back all the feelings that once he had for me? I am lost...... Pls help.
2007-05-12 23:55:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are in a long distance relationship and I miss him a lot, always.
2007-05-12 23:57:35 · update #1
I feel miserable, I had been so wrong & mean to have hurt him. Oh go, I dont even have the courage to die. I hate myself. I just wanna be a recluse now, I hate everything around me. Its a living hell for me now.
2007-05-13 01:01:17 · update #2
Having a long distance relationship cannot be easy, but going outside of the relationship every time there are problems doesn't help. Could it be that you are doing this because you are not sure of your relationship, and want reassurance that he loves you? Sometimes we do some very stupid things for reasons that are so well hidden that we do not even realize they are there. Don't beat yourself up over this, what is done is done. You CAN resolve NEVER to do anything like that again though, and assure your boyfriend that you will never behave that way again. Explain to him that you were hurting and angry at the time, but that you will think a bit more clearly in the future, and that you love him. If you truly love each other, he will forgive you once he has cooled down.Just remember that if it was he who had done it to you, you would probably have reacted in the same way. Could one of you not move, so that you could be closer to each other? A long distance relationship often breaks down simply because of the distances involved. I am sure your boyfriend does still care about you, and has not lost all his feelings towards you, he is just hurting very badly now, and understandably thinks he cannot trust you. Since you are willing to share your story with us, try to tell him exactly what you have written here. I wish you luck with your relationship, and hope you can and do make it work.
2007-05-13 01:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what apparently looks quite dismal & gloomy scenerio can be changed into a better & bright one. u just muster up some courage to leave your long distance relationship (since in most cases it does'nt work) look for someone nearby u. It may b a bit difficult in the start, but once u realize your problem then it will b quite easy for u. U need a person who can love u & be there anytime, all the time,to give u feeling of deep passionate love when u need esp. so that u don't be looking for the newer guys, (what u does'nt meen infact it is a bad habbit. ) In the presence of such lover u would'nt be thinking for such desire. Well God may help u in your this condition , it is better to go to your man yourself if he does'nt show up. Be there don't leave him lest u should be doing this thing again.
2007-05-13 00:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by lovelyhubby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, some of these answers are harsh.It's time to work on yourself.The damage is done, the only thing you can do is pick yourself up and move forward.Councling is defentialy the best option here, if you can afford it.You need to repair yourself, something caused you damage that has helped lead you to this behavior.You need to face the demons head on, if you want to beat them.You can not be someones' other half, if your not even whole yourself.
2007-05-13 01:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not capable of a normal healthy relationship much less a long distance one. you have serious issues and should stay the hell out of commital relationships until you figure it out. otherwise you can continue to trash your victims as you move through life. I wish someone had told me this when I tried to make it work with a woman like you. it was fruitless and a waste of time, mental health and money for nothing but heartache. let him go and let him live without your poison.
2007-05-13 03:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be too late for his forgiveness. The damage was done once again. Can you blame him? I'm not trying to make you feel any worse than you already do, but put yourself in his shoes and try to understand how he must feel. Everyone does some stupid things one time or another. Just relax and give him some time and work on your inperfections that cause this behavior. Things will work out fine for you. Good Luck.
2007-05-13 00:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something is obviousl missing from your relationship. Otherwise you would not stray. Search yourself to see what you need and then go after it.
Relationships are good, long distance or no. However, you have to know what you want before you get involved. I don't think you know.
2007-05-13 01:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your behavior doesnt show love. If you were worried about others feelings you wouldnt be doing these things. It seems that the only one you care about is your immediate concerns. You need to change your view to a long term view. Set long term goals and ignore things which divert from those goals. It is important that you start to see others as more worthy of your respect and love. Start giving more and dont look for anything to come to you that is a result of your demands.
2007-05-13 00:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
end thinking of your self placed all that Inger your dropping on them. Love do no longer come ordinary you need to paintings on them.believe is a commonplace area love . concentration one your loved ones member and the only that loves you . there is a few one for each guy or woman in this huge worldwide.
2016-11-27 23:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should leave you. Maybe it takes that in order for you to learn your lesson? I'm sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear but it may be the only way. It seems to me that you do not value nor respect your relationship with your boyfriend. He has every right to leave you. You're mean!
2007-05-13 00:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by jenarul 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leopards do not change their spots and $lappers do not either...you are born to it..forget this guy and move on.he already has.....you are destined to be loose forever and give pleasure to hundreds.....learn to live with it.......
2007-05-13 00:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋