how to trust a gay friend?

Question

How come a gay got changed?
I had a friend who is a gay and he invited us for a stay at his place. I visited and stayed there for a few days. He had a swimming pool and me and my wife swimmed with him there. Since it was a private pool she was wearing a panty alone (topless) mostly as she felt convenient in it. After this whenever I sit with my friend for a drink, after drink he starts talking as usual gay & S..X but these days he keeps telling that my wife has a nice butts & breasts and says that he started feeling that he should try a woman also. Since he was a gay i wasn't serious about it, but he revealed that while during our stay he had secretly watched her undress while changing and at bed. How come as a gay he started liking for a woman? How to trust him anymore

Answer 1

He's not strictly gay, he's probably bi. Gay people have no interest in people of the opposite sex.

Answer 2

Heh, seems he might be pitching for both sides. The problem here is if you go overboard and paranoid you are going to piss both him and the wife off. Its possible he is just sneaking a peek without any real intent (i mean sometimes i see someones misses its hard not to look if they got something that practically screams out for attention)

Just harbor a healthy amount of suspicion, that should keep you alert to these things

Answer 3

For me it is not whether to trust a gay friend, but a friend. You and your wife decided it was ok for her to be topless around someone else.

Tell him thank you for the compliments and if he brings it up again, tell him you have already had this conversation before. That should shut him up.

Answer 4

sexual orientation may be understood as a spectrum with homosexuality at one end and heterosexuality at the other. your friend may be closer to the homosexual end, but is not completely devoid of attraction to the other sex. you should talk it out rationally, I think.