I am so emotionally drained, people say that im strong, and i know i am, but im just tired what do i do?

Question

i know i have the strength to pick my self up whenever i fall, but so many people depend on me for emotional support, and i have so many things to worry about.
All i want is not to worry for a while, to be carefree, to laugh, i haven't done that for so long.
I need to chill out, but i really dont know how.
Help!

Sandy thanks for the advice, but I don't sleep, I honestly don't, I dream of the problems i'm facing, and no i'm not depressed I'm just very tired, I wish I could get 10 hours of dreamless undisturbed sleep, but it never happens
And Catsclaw thank you for your advice too but you can't turn away family, especially immediate family

Answer 1

Do people depend on you for emotional support, or just for venting and whining? If someone doesn't want to help themselves and refuses to do something about their life than what can you do? You should live for yourself and not let other people's problems continue to define your everyday life and your future plans.
Life is not worry free and it definately is not carefree, problems always have a way of creeping into our lives, there is no way around that. What we need to to however is to worry about the things that actually deserve to be worried about. There are problems and then there are PROBLEMS. We cannot stop at each and every little problem. Some things are major and have to be addressed, such as health, money, debt and so on, while others are merely temporary issues that will either fade away or just be a minor (and tolerable) issue in our busy lives.
Family is family and (almost) nothing will change that, but if someone is a continuous emotional drain then that person has to be cut loose. Their sanity and stability should not come at the cost of yours.
You might be overly emotional and sensitive, but that does not mean that one cannot be logical (in most cases) and look at the brighter side of life, because there has to be something good going on, whether now or planned in the future.
You cannot also disregard the effect that one's job can have on a person. If your job is unenjoyable, then it can and will become a source of continous and daily pressure.
A strong person is not a person that can withstand each and every hurdle that life throws at them (because no one can), but is a person that knows which hurdle to fight and which hurdle to just take and learn from.
You cannot fight the world, so don't try to, you will only lose and crumble under the pressure.
Look at the future, five, ten years from now, decide where you want to be then and work for it and don't let anyone get in your way. If someone truely loves, or cares about, you then they will support your efforts at improving yourself, otherwise they are only selfish and will use guilt (always a human favorite) and other negative emotions to keep you to themselves.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel because I've been there, and unfortunately, still am even after 20 years, everybody depends on your advice and vents their problem to you and they are unburdened and feel better, and this happens not just by one person but quite a few and this is draining you, is there someone you can unload on because if like me you don't you could have a breakdown. I'm sorry to say that you just have to either change the subject or tell them that you have something else to do, I know thats hard cause you are a caring person but if you don't you'll end up on medication cause you can't sleep for worrying over everyone else, and we all have our own personal things that we are going through, but nobody seem to give a rats when you need help, please have a break away for you own mental health and stand up for yourself and say I'm sorry but I just cant deal with this now, I have my own problems and let them stand on their own 2 feet, instead of relying on you to solve your problems, I'm at the stage of being very angry and feeling used hence now they think I'm having a break down because of all the helping others thing has overtaken my life, and believe me they come to expect it and take offence when you stop, but you have to for your own sake, please heed my advice, I know where you are coming from, and to have reached out for help it a good sign that you are still in control and able to help yourself, I only wished I'd have done the same thing years ago, so goodluck to you and good health!

Answer 3

embrace the fact that people actually count on you there are some people out there who dont exist to anyone and wish people came to them for advice. you should weed through the people you are helping and if you find some of them are just wallowing in self pity politely ask them to find other outlets for their emotions . when someone depends on you emotionally it is supposed to go both ways meaning that they should be there for you to shoot the shittles with. maybe you should lessen communication with the people who dont listen to YOU talk when you are stressed , the people that always wanna whine but dont want to listen. some good ways to chill out would be making a "you day" at least once a week where you sit at home or go to a movie with no means for people to contact you (cell, beeper , etc..) or better yet if you have a friend who doesnt really have any problems invite them to dinner or something like that.

remember YOU are your own best friend so dont neglect yourself and put yourself first.

Answer 4

Contact one of those people you're always "there" for, and ask them to fill your shoes for 24 hours. Then close the curtains, go to bed and sleep until you're done.

It's amazing how refreshing uninterrupted sleep can be.

Once you get back into the swing of things, you might want to make an appointment to see a doctor.

Sounds like a depressive disorder to me.

Hugs,
Sandy

Answer 5

Being emotional is normal as a person, but too much emotion can affect your health.

You have to trust yourself & God by keeping youself alive thru prayers & meditation. When u practice it daily or every minute when uer in doubts & troubles u will amazed that your questions will be answered in a moment of silence when u meditate.

Trust me, I've bee thru wih that situation...I hope u can do it!

Answer 6

l've been struggling with that same sitation my whole life. l had to shut out some of the people who just weren't helping themselves. l still like to help people but sometimes l just can't l need someone on myside when the world is against me.

Answer 7

You need a break. have a holiday. Cheer up my dear......