I have a low self esteem, how best can I get out of it?

Question

I fear people so much and I feel every body is more worth than I

Answer 1

happy pills

Answer 2

Well A first of all it would appear that you have made the first biggest step m8 into dealing with this issue so fair play - many people with low self esteem and feelings of worthlessness dont even seek advice due to fear of stigma or being ridiculed! The way that you deal with it, will depend on YOU - and the person that knows YOU best.......... ( yeah that would be YOU aswell!)! We live in the year 2007 A and you may be suprised how much help and support is available to you! I could drone on and on about CBT and other therapies that appear to be the dog do dahs currently but arrange to see your GP ( providing you feel comfortable to do so?) and explain basically what you ve said in your question. They should then be able to refer you on to the best /most appropriate services in your local area! Seriously though stick wirth it m8 and good luck. Ive worked with numerous people who suffer from similar feelings to you A and we look at Self Esteem as being:

" the difference between someone s "perceived self" and that persons "actual self". The smaller the gap between these two determiners the greater that persons self esteem. As this gap increases ( this can be over long or short periods of time ) the individual will experience greater feelings of worhtlessness and self worth."

Good luck !

Answer 3

Go out and if you can afford it but some new clothes that make you feel sexy and make it a point to meet new people. Maybe go to a club or where ever you feel most comfortable. It will be hard but at least try. Also you may have some type of anxiety around people and this would make you uncomfortable. So talk to your doc. Never feel like you are less than anyone else. If you do this people can read your insecurities and feed off it. They will take advantage of you in a heart beat. Try going to the library or online for how to boost self esteem. If you feel like your a peice of crap people with think this about you and treat you this way. If tell yourself your sexy and think positive thoughts, it will show.

Answer 4

My personal advise is maybe speak to a councellor, going via a doctor might be the way forward. They are likely to get you to talk about how you feel about yourself and try and get to the route of the problem in that way. This might upset you and she/he might say some things at times you don't like but if you perserver it should help. At the end of the day their trying to help to build your self esteem long term, not over night.

My advise is stick with friends who are supportive and build you up rather then knock your confidence. Real friends are supportive and wouldn't want to hurt you emotionally. This is easier said then done I know from personal experience.

Also think about your long term plans and what would make you personally happy, not just give you a short term fix. Everyone wants different things and you need to be realistic but don't let negative comments from people who don't really know you cloud this, your likely to be much more competent then you think.

Maybe go to a teacher or someone who knows you well and can give you an honest yet intelligent opinion on the subject.

Hope that helps!

Answer 5

Please dont have a low opinion of yourself - its so destructive....... In my opinion people who are not confident and have low esteem are the nicest most caring and thoughtful people.

When you look around at others and feel that they are better than you - just remember that everyone has faults - The guy/girl who is really good looking is probably really vain and a bit shallow...the guy/girl with the great job has probably upset so many people on the way up to the top.

I have also found that people who, on the surface, appear to have it all are rarely that happy - theres usually some problem /insecurity making them feel bad.

Embrace your personality/looks etc - theres no one else like you and theres always someone worse off than you. Always believe that you are a nice person no matter what your achievements

chin up - you sound lovely x

Answer 6

I used to feel the exact way; but then one day you find that no one is Superior, and that we are all human beings who have the same central feelings. The low self asteem comes usually from having no father; since the fathers generally give their children the self esteem as the mothers give the nurturing... I could be wrong, but that is the general picture, someone did not help you develop it in life; and now it is up to you- with good friends and family, and a new faith in yourself as well...

Answer 7

well, you need snap out of it. Just because some people look nice on the outside does not mean they are perfect or a nice person. Everyone is equal and you should not live your life in fear, you should get out and socialise and let your hair down. Go do a special something for yourself, treat yourself. Point is because you look at others all the time, you think they look at you all the time. Now if you make yourself happy you will spend less time looking at others and focussing on the good things in your own life.

Answer 8

Hi Adyeen

Firstly, STOP worrying about self-esteem - it's a total waste of time. In fact it's more like a disease than a benefit.

Second, get hold of a copy of Albert Ellis' book "The Myth of Self-Esteem". It will explain exactly why self-esteem does more harm than good

AND BETTER YET

it will give you detailed guidance on how to develop your good feelings about yourself in a far more constructive and lasting manner.

Answer 9

Dress up, do your hair, make yourself look as pretty as possible (if you're a girl) or as gorgeous as possible if you're a boy.

Read a good book that people might consider a classic, or difficult (but that you can deal with) or do some maths or whatever - something that you can do that others can't, could be playing music or anything.

Ring a friend, organise going out somewhere and make yourself look good, and just make the best of yourself, and you will feel better.

Answer 10

Talk to people try making friends a good friend.The sooner the better or you will have a low self esteem for the rest of your life

Answer 11

Hi, everyone can excell in something. maybe you are good at cooking or crafts,or reading.
When youwake up every morning think of good things about yourself and then belive in them. Write them down and when you feel especially low in self esteem get them out and read them again.
Find anew hobby too that can help you build up confidence- good luck