Should the partner reveal every single detail to the other? What if the other is too sentimental and takes things only on face value? Shouldn't one read between the lines while analyzing the ground situation? Is it OK to be calculative as per the managerial theories or should one be really a "blotting paper" (one who adjusts to situations depending on one's priorities?)
2007-05-12 19:50:28 · 10 answers · asked by Nilutpal Gogoi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel YES. Marriage is not just a social institution. It is a combination or two individuals, their faith, love, past -presentand future.
Forget about managerial theories, family is not office.
Have faith in yourself, it is better not to commit something you cant disclose, and remember, if you are true to your wife, she will be forgiving too.
I am in love and we are getting married soon, she knows all my past, and has shared every of them with me.
To be married is all about believing each other and conditionless love.
2007-05-13 01:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Brave Heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt marriage means mutual trust & believes between the spouses, but I'll still suggest that certain facts mainly regarding financial matters should not be disclosed completely to each other. When I say completely it means you can disclose certain facts not all. We have a person Binoe, his mail id buzz.blore@yahoo.com, this fellow had a joint bank account with his wife when he was posted outside the country & his wife took full advantage of taking out cash from his account & ran away to her parents home, now this fellow is down with 35lacs of rupees she took with her, neither she is returning back to him nor allowing him the company of his son & he is running around courts for getting restitution of conjugal rights for her & custody of the child for the son. Now this is one example I have given you there may be several more where any of the spouse did the same or similar act, so it is best to be have mutual trust amongst each other but still keep some thing stored for yourself too. Yes adjust to situations depending on one's priorities as well read between the lines while analyzing the ground situation. Both these factors are important in a matrimonial life too.
2007-05-12 21:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont even think that two uppity overly analytical psychologists or litigating lawyers can have a relationship when it comes to detail. some people have so much information in their heads that you might bore each other completely or worse. Reading between the lines? isnt that like the old saying to 'assume' is to make an *** out of you and me? there needs to be a balance of intellect and emotion sure but too much detail can fizzle out a relationship quickly. people seem to love some mystery, unfolding their partner in a way. finding new and wonderful things about each other, being amazed or in admiration. it sets a tone for endearment and adoration and appeal. if one is so rigid and the partner is so willowy...that too may cause conflict in that the willowy one might lose a feeling of individuality and lose the respect of the rigid one and the rigid one may become too distant and cold for the willowy one to want to cuddle up with.
2007-05-12 20:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage means promise to share joys and sorrow together and help each other to grow and develop their own identity also. If one partner betrays the other, it surely hurts deeply. If two people understand the feelings of each other, things like these will be taken care of. Marriage was formed so that both partners can share responsibilities together and respect each other. Communicate feelings without hurting others is the key.
2007-05-12 20:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by VA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is based on trust, and more than that ,on understanding.if you have a partner who can put her/himself in your shoes and think then you be easy about sharing all the details.but if not then selective filtering is important.one reason why your spouse cant be told all the details is that often in the past things have been hidden from him/her.this leads to him/her viewing you with suspicion that have all the facts been told when you tell the story?either way its in your hands to ensure how comfortable your partner is with you and how comfortable you are with sharing details with your partner.
2007-05-12 20:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by amogh w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends....you should want to be honest with each other, but i also believe in knowing your spouse. that is, knowing how much and/or what they can take emotionally without destroying the marriage. there are some things my husband tells me that i wish he wouldn't because it makes me worry and i become insecure. yet there are things i won't say to him bc i know he will take them the wrong way. so i have to find another way to let him know what i am feeling. you don't want to over analyze, but at the same you want to find a healthy balance....hope that makes sense...
2007-05-12 19:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Elle M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, partners should be exact glass for each other. What ever they are on this side, they must be on other side as well. regarding theories i do not know, but know is the real life, which runs only on faith not on theories.
2007-05-12 22:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by cool guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not necessary to reveal every single detail.You invite trouble by doing so.
2007-05-12 19:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why all the details- can you not take her as she is if not thank you should find another.
2007-05-12 19:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure
2007-05-12 22:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by slave of sneha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋