Your marriage had been going downhill for 2 years and you never had a good job..now i have a good job and can afford to be on my own..thats the only reason i never left...now i can...should i
2007-05-12 19:23:15 · 16 answers · asked by Liz M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You never left because of the money issue??.. I'm guessing that you didn't love your partner...and now that your situation is better, you want to leave?..I don't think you should put the money as your main reason to filled the divorce papers, if you didn't want to be with him anymore, you should've left a long time time ago..no until now that your situation is better....
There was no reason for you to keep on going on with the marriage if it was going downhill already, you had no right to use your partner as you money problems solver...a marriage its a commitment of two people that are willing to do anything for each other, and to keep on going untill the end..
If there still love, try to work it out, if not forget it, just leave...but just hope that you don't find a guy in the future that may do the same thing...
What goes around, comes around
2007-05-14 19:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage has been going downhill for 2 years and you never had a good job, now you do, and can live on your own but hadn't before because of the money. You don't actually say why your marriage is damaged and irrevocable, just that you want to leave.
Hard to say, sounds like a coin toss decision. Did you toss a coin when you got married? If so, then that's probably your best bet, only use one for this year (2007) so your toss will be more up to date. If not, try a magic 8 ball, that will give you 1 in 8 chances of getting the answer you want.
2007-05-12 19:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! Ending your marriage because you can afford to, is a terrible reason. Perhaps your marriage should end, but you've managed to keep it going up until now, and you don't mention either hiring a hit man, or running off with a circus performer. End your marriage IF you don't love each other, not because your marriage isn't perfect, or your lives are in a rut right now. Also- What the heck do you mean- marriage has been going downhill? A marriage isn't a car you parked on a hill in neutral, that'll go downhill on it's own. It's you and your spouse. Aren't you friends? Don't you talk? If you don't care for each other, why'd you get married? If your marriage is going in a direction that ain't good, turn the darn wheel. Heck, now you're making some decent money, use it to improve your lives, AND your marriage. Or, if you don't really care to try fixing your marriage, get divorced.
2007-05-13 03:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you done all there is to do to try and save your marriage? I think people these days tend to leave before all has been done to work things out. If you truly feel that there is no hope for your marriage then maybe you should let him and yourself be free to love again. But if you haven't talked things through then maybe you are jumping the gun here a bit. Things can get comfortable in a marriage. I thought I was unhappy in my marriage 6 months ago but now things couldn't be better. Marriage is hard work and it takes time and patients with each other to make it work. I am a stay at home mom and I became too comfortable with life. I started to take care of myself and now the better I feel about myself the better our marriage has become.. Hope this helps you in some way... Good luck.
2007-05-12 19:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Shabby_Chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answering from personal experience, I was married to an alcoholic at 19 years old. I didn't have a job, car, or any money so I was forced to stay in the relationship for three years. When I finally got a job as an office manager, I left the relationship. Because I depended on him, I had to put up with alcohol, violence, and infidelity. I will never again put myself in that kind of situation. If you feel that it's time to leave and you have valid reasons to do so, then do it.
2007-05-12 19:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you have tried everything to rekindle your marriage, and there is no longer any chance for the two of you to be happy together, then yes! There really is no point in staying together when you are both miserable. However, before you make your decision, think carefully about it, and then do what you know is right. You have a right to be happy, and if leaving an unhappy marriage is what it takes to gain that happiness, then do it! Good luck.
2007-05-12 19:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to www.marriagemax.com and read the free material and buy the cd set for $60. listen and do the exercises together. It is a better alternative than marriage counseling and much more private and much less expensive and much more effective.
if that doesn't work, do what you gotta do.
2007-05-12 19:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by j_mang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. i mean if the only reason why you stayed in the whole
relationship was because you needed financial help && now
you're like is going good. well then yeah .. go for it.
2007-05-12 19:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by em_LEEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont say how long you've been married----if its been going down-hill from day one or not. does sound like you don't have any respect for him though----if he's not doing anything to earn it and you dont think he ever will---and you don't think you ever could respect him---you'd probably be doing both of you a favor to get out of it.
2007-05-12 22:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by say what? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you arent happy and are ready to move on, yes leave.
2007-05-12 19:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋