My marriage has had some major problems--6 weeks into my marriage, my wife kicked me and bruised my upper leg, and for over a year, I did not trust her or really want to move forward with finances or family. She spent November with her family, including Thanksgiving. We got back together, and then she found some stupid websites I browsed and never followed up or made any human contact. Well, now, 6 months later, she said she does not trust me, and gets jealous and suspicious anytime I mention meeting a female of any age. She says "How do I know you won't cheat with her?" I have never cheated on her for 3 1/2 years, and she wants to start a family very soon. I feel uncomfortable about bringing a child into this relationship where my wife does not trust me, and communicates this (verbally/non-verbally) to my kid. Should we divorce? Please offfer your thoughts. Thanks.
2007-05-12 19:22:33 · 6 answers · asked by frustrated 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I gonna put this plain and simply either she is really paranoid of you or you are doing something to make her suspect something, either way you don't need to be having a baby at this time. You both have some major issues to overcome before you both even think about having a baby together. I know they say that the first year of marriage is the hardest, but it shouldn't be this difficult and I only predict in time that things will become even worse if you and her can't talk it out in a rational way
2007-05-13 12:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by happytree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it that all the problems in marriage lead to divorce and not reconciliation. You made a commitment the day you were married and it should never be over looked! She doesn't trust you for a reason. So, you need to show her and tell her all the reasons she can trust you. If you wanted your marriage to work, than divorce would never have become an option. If you don't love her then tell her. If you love her, and I pray that you do, work at it every day until you get it right. Marriage never was perfect. But your dedication to one another can be.
Good luck!
2007-05-12 19:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by squirrelbait 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first off, how does any wife know her husband won't cheat?
Maybe she feels a baby will have you all wrapped up and father's don't cheat. (Right.)
I don't know about the divorce, but if she cannot accept your honest profession of fidelity, and this is going to be ongoing, maybe a child is not a good idea.
Why does she want a child with you if she thinks you are going to ultimately betray her anyway?
2007-05-13 03:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I wonder why she's suspicious, you are such a "good guy". I don't mean to sound harsh, but wake up, she disrespects you and your "kid", and doesn't believe a word you say. No child deserves to be exposed to the "love" you two have shown each other. It sounds like she wants to start a family, but not with you.
2007-05-12 19:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 00:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would have been divorced and remarried to someone sane.
2007-05-12 19:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋