we married from 2003.soon after my marriage he left me in his house for 7 months and not taking me with him to his work place by saying he had some tours and also that is thr custom to stay with parents first.i reached here alone.after that i feel he is a very shy and silent loving person.he laughs occasionally.last december i find him subcribe to diff gay sites.when i asked he told me it was just an excitement to know abt gay.i got some sexy sent sms to a male and again when i asked he told me ,that person was giving him that kind of sms so he reply back.now i am bit afraid .he nevers say me no to anythg.he has no family friends.he bnever allow me to kiss him when we make sex and also his approch is same everyday.and when i say no to sex he agree easily.He is a Phd holde and very studious.also a vice president of very renound company.
now you help me finding out is he a gay?
2007-05-12 19:05:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He may not be a gay but having gay tendencies, if he was gay he would never married you & even if he married you for some reasons he would never indulged in sex with you as gays & lesbians never like to indulge in sex with person of opposite sex, its only the bisexuals/bicurious people who have homosexual tendencies indulge in sex with both the sexes people. Such people do indulge in subscribing to gay sites on internet or making friends with other gays in order to experience sex in different manner that they do with their spouse or partner otherwise. It has been found that these people develop such tendencies mostly while they live in hostel during their school/college study period & they even indulge in such gay sex with their room mates. It hardly matters whether he is a PhD. or on a High job profile of a renowned company, such people can belong to any class of the society. Just keep an watch on his activities & check for his sexual orientation & activities, least he indulge in unsafe sex with some one that make him infected with sexually transmitting disease like AIDS or he becomes carrier of such virus causing such infection.
2007-05-13 02:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was this an arranged marriage? If so, he may simply not be in love with you (hopefully not yet and it will change) or he just doesn't find you attractive for his tastes. Whether that means he's gay or not...only he knows for sure. If it is available, insist he go to family counseling with you. That will help you figure out the problem. If it isn't an option available, then you need to decide whether it is worth trying to save what sounds like a marriage of convenience.
2007-05-12 19:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your husband is just curious about what being gay is all about maybe he may try something or perhaps his curiousity will fade and hell return to normal but the best thing to do would be to get a computer program that will let your know everything he is doing online if he is gay he prolly is searching so that would be the best way to find out,..
2007-05-12 19:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably, or just formal, shy or bi, sometimes it depends on upbringing. I would rent gay porn and see if he's into it or rent regular porn and see if he get turned on. But the no kissing during sex, gay or not means that your relationship needs some serious help. It shows that you two aren't connecting the way that you should. I would evaluate your relationship also and tell him how these things are making you feel. You don't want to waste your life being with some one who you don't connect with... gay or not.
2007-05-12 19:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has subscriptions to gay websites, that means that most likely he had to pay for them. This goes beyond mere curiosity. Curiosity would be checking out the free sites and then moving on. Honestly, I don't know any straight guys who have a curiosity to view gay porn, unless it is two women. This is something you have to be very careful with, because it increases your risk for HIV. I would suggest protecting yourself either with condoms or abstinence. Talk to him about his behavior and see if he will be honest. He may be using you as a cover either for cultural reasons, which is very common, or for his career. It is sad when this happens, because both people are hurt. You are hurt because it hurts to be used. He is hurt because society does not allow him to be who he is. Feel free to email me if you have any questions.
2007-05-12 19:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by idontloveyoufup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be, Ask him if there is a man in his life. ( You know what i mean.) Then again, It really sounds like he is bi-sexual. If he is still having sex with you, And perhaps his boyfriend as well. You may need to decide if there is any real future for you in this relationship. That is a decision you must make for yourself. Follow your heart and it will rarely lead you astray..Best of luck..
2007-05-12 19:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's on the down-lo, yea he is gay sorry not much you can do about that except get out of the marriage.
2007-05-12 19:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage isn't going well, either way. Ask yourself if you are better off with him or without him, then proceed accordingly.
2007-05-12 19:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dress on sexy pajamas in the night. Show him your sexy ability. See what would he do on you later. :P
2007-05-12 19:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by codes1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from every thing you say, sounds like he is, im sure if ypou ask him, an he is he will say no, so file for divorace get on with your life!
2007-05-12 19:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by close_my_eyes2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋