I am abused by my wife very often since so many years. I lost hope that she will never correct herself.?

Answer 1

Such a behavior in a spouse is because of any of the following reasons :- the person is fouled mouth since childhood learnt such abusive language in home or school & was never checked for it, the person has mental complex with regards to looks , money, or wealth he or she has or doesn't has as compared to his or her spouse in other words he or she has an superiority or inferiority complex, or the person is having some phycological/phsicatric/mental problems/complications that makes him or her abusive in nature, any of these can be the reasons for your wife's abusive nature of your wife. Now analyze according to which of these reason she has abused you since so many years. Try to solve your problem by taking necessary steps in getting things settled accordingly. If it is childhood habit then it will not be so easy to solve it now at this age but if this is because of other reasons as mentioned above steps can be taken if not to stop her completely then at least improve her abusive nature.

Answer 2

Ignore the people that tell you to quit abusing her... although I believe that in many cases abuse is mutual, it's not fair for people to assume that in a specific case that's so just because you're a guy... I bet they wouldn't tell some woman complaining about being abused by her husband that. And if anybody tells you that women don't abuse men, they're plain wrong. I'm proud of you for speaking up and trying to find help. :)

Anyway, I'm sorry but there's a fair chance that she won't correct herself. I don't know how she abuses you and I don't know whether you've talked to her about it... have you asked her to go see a counselor or to join a program for abusers that want to quit (available in most major cities)? Has she made any efforts to quit (and I don't mean saying "I'll never do it again")? Have you tried couples counseling?

Leave her unless she shows considerable effort to correct herself. Abusers can learn to quit abusing, but it's not easy, it's definitely not going to happen automatically. I really recommend that you also go see a counselor yourself to deal with the issues you might have from having been abused for so long. You want to learn about abuse and how to recognize abusers before you get into any new relationship. You also want to learn about becoming assertive, for example get a book from your library on that topic. It's not going to be easy but you can do it.

Answer 3

My mother runs the jail for the county and has for years, people would be suprised to know that there are often more women in jail for beating their husbands than the other way around. (And usually spikes up around a full moon. Also when the water turns.)
Women have gone from passive to aggressive. That is not to say men still are not kicking the crap out of their wives. But, more women are fighting back.
All you can do is get out of your bad situation. It wont get better. She may kill you if she loses it badly enough.

Answer 4

You need to get away from the abuse. There are many kinds of abuse, but none are acceptable. If you have allowed her to do this for any period of time and have done nothing about it, then why would you think that she would change? You are the one that is going to have to make the change. For your mental health you need to leave this relationship. I don't know what kind of abuse you are enduring, but any abuse is unhealthy. Get out of this relationship now!

Answer 5

the first time she abuses you there is no turning back , it will only get worse. i say you leave this relationship or do something about it now. anytime she gets angry or upset secretly call the cops so she can get caught doing what she is doing.Lock yourself in the restroom and call the cops, stay on the line so they can hear what she is yelling and doing. it will be to your advantage that you do this. later on in divorce court you will have this in your favor. keep calling the cops. also try to go to concouling. and if your wife wants to go then thats great if not then thats ok, go without her. good luck.
and never hit her back!!!

Answer 6

You poor thing. If you don't want to be abused further just leave her. If you need her, then just grin and bear it.

Answer 7

then its time for you to leave she will only change if she wants to and since you have been with her for years get out and make yourself happy, don't be a doormat any more stand up for yourself and leave.

Answer 8

Gain back an inch of backbone each time. be confident, what ever is the outcome.

Answer 9

maybe u should stop abusing her and treating her with more respect as in to speak to her with regards to what you need her to correct in herself...