I used to be very shy and I grew up in an emotionally abusive house. I have social anxiety disorder, which I am on medication for and it seems to be working. Im also seeing a therapist about it. However, even after all of the progress I have been making, I still feel like I dont have many close friends. I love to be around people, but I have a hard time connecting with them. Ive been through depression because of this. I just feel sometimes like I am invisible, and like Im the only one who has gone through this. Has anyone else gone through this??? Did you get over it? If so, how did you overcome it?
2007-05-12 18:08:27 · 12 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are not alone. The amount of responses you got to your question should let you know that. People experience many different things maybe not as intense as yours but end up with the same results.
What is most impressive is your strength and will to move forward and believe me you will. The most important thing about making friends is first being a good friend. True Friendship is not easy to come by it takes years just like that Vintage bottle of Wine.
Look for friends who have things in-common with you, this way you do not have to stretch to far from your comfort zone to interact with them and if you pull back because of what you are going through,Being that you all can relate, they will understand.
Over coming this first starts with your inner strength along with the help of good friends and family.
Please do remember this you may think having alot of friends around is good, but 1 Quality friend to 20 associates is better than anything on this earth.
2007-05-12 18:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ecala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is kinda like me. I don't ever feel close enough with people even after a while. I also don't have any friends. I would go to school and have people there that I would talk to and who would call, text or e mail me sometimes but we don't go out or anything. Right now I have no friends. I also am shy and the person I talk to most is my mom. Eventually I guess we may both become brave in life enough.
2016-04-01 08:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need many close friends. You can have many acquaintances, but close friends are rare and very valuable.
Friendship is not something that you collect like stamps.
If in your lifetime you have one or two close friends, then consider yourself very lucky.
A true friend takes time and a lot of caring for the friendship to grow and develop into a beautiful relationship.
People these days are in too much of a hurry gathering groups around them, and then end up feeling alone in a crowd.
It's quality NOT quantity that counts.
2007-05-12 18:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by snowflakes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately I didn't grow up in a home like that, however I was a VERY sheltered child and was abused by a family member at the age of 9 which made me a kind of introvert. It took me quite some time to come out of that. It was only a one time thing but then, it only takes one time. I had to force myself to make friends. Yeah I know, your thinking.... What the H*** is she talking about. Yes it is hard, but it can be done. I done it.
2007-05-12 18:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by angiee631 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also grew up in the same environment and I suffer the same thing so you are not alone. Its not the quantity of friends love its the qualilty. I have a handfull of friends and sometimes I think it would be nice to have more. I sometimes envy very social people and other times I don't. Its very wierd. I wish I was more social because I feel very alone for it.
2007-05-12 18:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I get the same feeling everyday. I really have one close friend who is this emo chick who cuts herself. Shes one of the few people I can connect with even though many of her problems aren't serious. I just connect with her because I get the feeling that she is like me in the way that you are describing. I know she feels alone too.
I have plenty of friends but, they're not the kind of people who I feel like I can tell anything too. I feel like they're just friends with me because I'm nice and everyone seems to like me. I can't really "connect" with these people. I kind of got over it though... I do not know how.
I guess... you need to give people more hugs. For some reason the people that I can hug, I feel closer to that people who I can have long conversations with.
Hugs solve everything.
2007-05-12 18:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by xxr4gexx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
K did you know most people only have around 3 to 5 friends that they are the closest to and about only 2 that they are able to share their deepest secrets too. Plus it is ganna take you time to be able to share secrets with and let them into your live because of how you were treated in the past. But when you overcome it and are able to relax around them and stop wondering how they are ganna judge you, you should be able to make friends pretty easily.
2007-05-12 18:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by boychooser14 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I by nature have an introverted personality and was shy around people. But then one day I realized... I am missing out on life and some great people and relationships. So I just jumped into it and started putting myself out there. It is hard but it gets easier with practise.
Cheers!
2007-05-12 18:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Skipping Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through that already ^-^ I thought that not many people cares about me and stuff..
A friend of mine told me and made me realize that it is better to have not much of close friends instead of having a thousand who don't even care about me..
And now I have a few close friends, and I'm happy because they are my true friends =D
I don't even really bother making a lot of friends who don't really give their time to know me more and talk to me much, they are just those types of friends u say "hi" and "bye" to but not really talk >.<
2007-05-12 18:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes I feel like that - not connected enough -
sometimes I am surprised and happy about the relationships I do have -
appreciate what you have, and keep your friends in mind -
try new things and meet new people -
2007-05-12 18:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Frank 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋