how to deal with this kind of pearson?

Question

my future mother in law is a phsyco. how can i deal with this kind of pearson is there any way i can make her realize what she is doing and how she is hurting people. 1.she hardly ever cooks
2.husband works hard very hard
3.she does not even take care of her hard working suportive husband.
4.does not know her childerens age or what grade their in "i forgot haha" thats what she says
5.curses around her kids all the time jus yelling"F&*#" all the time
6. hits her children from jus a burst of anger
7. flurts with other guys
8. when husband not around dresses with her chest sticking out.
9. does not want to come and pick her doughter up from school and just tells her to walk
10. house is a mess
11. speeds all the time and getts tickets
12. calls me insulting names behind my back and in my face
13. never apreciates anything
14. very greatty, selffish
15. wants to be the best
16.bossy
17. and much much more

she seams to have somekid of personalty disorder
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Answer 1

All you can do, I think, is make sure that you do not spend too much time with her. When you are with her, just keep your distance, and do not react to the names she calls you. Simply show her that you are the better person, and that her words do not hurt you. The things she does to her husband,her dirty house, and her speeding really are her problems, not yours, so ignore them. Once you are married, you could always move further away so you do not see too much of her. Let her and her behavior act as a reminder to you that this is NOT the way you are going to be as a wife and mother. Good luck, I hope you can work this out.

Answer 2

Don't take this the wrong way..but have you considered using the spell check option? You may have a real problem on your hands, but the way you spell even the simplest of words make it seem as though 1) you are too young 2) you are making it up. 'Pearson' is the last name of a famous Canadian 'person.' Look it up, he was responsible for helping form the UN.

Now...your mother in law IS your problem. Why? Because you are marrying her son/daughter and because you have witnessed what constitutes abuse to her children. If you fail to report it, you could be held responsible for any harm as an accessory. As for calling you names...who is the mature person, her or you? Since when does name calling hurt you? As for how she treats her husband, if he's happy, leave it alone. If he isn't, he'll need to do something about it. Unless he's said something to you, you have no proof, only your own opinion, that she isn't good to him.

Look, many people don't get along with their in laws. The thing is, you aren't marrying the in laws, you're marrying their son or daughter. Some times we have to take the good with the bad, and count our blessings we don't have to be around them every single moment.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

This is your future mother inlaw! First I would decide if I wanted her to be my mother inlaw. This is alot of baggage. Best thing to do if you do marry is move a couple of hours away. You can't change her if she doesn't want to change. She is your boyfriends mother so that is a touchy situation in itself. Just make sure he is not a moma's boy and also only do things to her that a normal person will respect. Set your boundaries with her and her son and maybe it will work out. Good Luck, because you are going to need it!

Answer 5

You know, I am kinda confused because not many of these things listed effects you in any way? Her Husband works hard? House is a mess? I mean easy don't go there. She speeds? ARE YOU HER MOTHER??? Why does that matter what she does. Just keep your distance and DONT CARE!!! you are wasting your great energy on something that is super silly!

Answer 6

You are a little wrapped up in her drama. She is immature and she isn't a good wife or mother, that is clear. What does it have to do with you? You marry the person's family, too when you get married. In-laws aren't easy to deal with no matter what. So can you handle her and live your own life, or not.

Answer 7

Well you can either deal with it or not marry into this family. You have a choice. We can't always choose who is in our loves life. In laws can be tricky at times. You learn to tame your tongue and let things slide. Just don't let it affect you and don't spend that much time with her. You have to learn to live your own life and not hers.

Answer 8

someone needs to do her a favor and call child protective services

Answer 9

Simple. Deal with it, have little contact with her. It's none of your business what she does in her home, it only affects you when she attacks you personally. Stay out of her life and she'll stay out of yours. Sounds like you have some growing up to do.

Answer 10

from what i read she.s lazy pal she needs a job but probley would be to lazy to do that . just my opion?