I am tired?

Question

I have been through a year of hell. I found out my now ex was having an affair, I divorced him, changed jobs, have sole custody of my son, bought and sold a house. I am tired. I have dealt with the fact that my husband of ten years left, all the adjustments of my 9 year old son, never spoke negatively of my ex in front of my son, did all the right things so my son could get through this as good as possible, now I am tired. What is next?

Answer 1

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and the present is the gift of life!
So get lots of relaxation, take time to get to know they new you, life and it's surrounding.
Make sure you stay in focus of the love for your children as well as yourself.
Cry less, laugh often, last and far most important, "If life only dealt you with lemons, then make lemonade!
You are a survivor, You can do it!!!
Shed that old skin, and smile for what you have, kept and not once lost. Which is your mind! ;)

Answer 2

This has obviously been a very trying time for you, having to deal with everything, so it is natural for you to feel drained and tired. The only advice I can give you, is to start taking a bit of time for yourself. I am sure that with everything going on in your life the past year, you have been working on automatic pilot, and have not had a chance to just relax. Start out by having a nice, soothing bath with soft music and candles, and just relax in it. Try to find the time to do something (maybe join a gym?) which will help you de-stress. The more you do for yourself, the more you will be able to give of yourself to your son. Above all, remember that you are a strong and resourceful woman, who has put her life back together again, and that you deserve a happy and fulfilled life now. Good luck, after having gone through all the tribulations of the past year, I am sure you can do it!

Answer 3

Take a little breather and take it easy for a while. Try not to do anything extra for about a month. Go to work, do things with your son and just sleep a little extra. Let your mind wander. Start to dream again. Get a notebook and start writing all of your goals down. Dream big. Get the rest you need before you start making changes in your life to make it exactly what you want it to be. You've been through alot and look, you made it! Give yourself the credit you deserve and next month you can start with a renewed attitude about living. Good luck :)

Answer 4

Breathe.... and let it all go. You're probably still holding something against your husband because it is never easy to let go when you've been hurt so badly. You've had a lot to deal with and it's only fair that you get to take some time off and relax. So go on vacation, summer's here. And if you don't have the time for that because of your job or prior commitments, then take a day off and spend it at a spa, get a massage, get a little gussied up. It'll help you unwind and relieve some stress =] Good Luck!

Answer 5

my parents divorrced when i was two and my mom still tells me about how hard it was depending on how ling you have been divorced you could start dating again but always check with your son it will still be hard at times but you have to move on and get on with your life.. it seems like you are doing a good job with keeping your son cheerful and doing all the right things now just do some things for yourself and start having fun again... relax and now is the best time to spend with girlfriends and doing some fun little dates...if your not comfortable with that yet get a group of guys and girls and just go out and have fun live your life the way every women should live it up

Answer 6

Been through that in a round about way. My husband killed himself. I was with him for 13 yrs. I totally understand where you are at. Your thinking... now what do I do? Give yourself a big pat on the back for even getting through it. Secondly, what about your career? Have you thought about going back to school? Give yourself something new and challenging. Something to strive for and look toward the future for. I done exactly that, and it along with friends and family, gave me and my children a whole new future! If your son See's you excited and happy about something, that alone will boost his morale and attitude. Kids know how we feel even if we don't tell them. I wish you all the luck in the world! If I can help with any advice or those "yeah I have been there" issues, feel free to email me.

Answer 7

well what is next is up to you and only you--------------------you can choose to get on with your life and get out there and have some fun, make new friends, etc. take up a hobby you enjoy and take time for and to yourself-if it were me i would wait for quite awhile before getting involved romantically with another, as there is always plently of time to do that.
Get to know yourself better and what you really want in life and then go after it---meditate and read if you enjoy it. be happy and remember the affair was not a reflection on you or the person you are-it says alot about the person that had it and shows how his character is...enjoy your life -because the yrs pass us by quicker then we realize--good luck to you and have some fun times :)

Answer 8

What's next is for you to get on with YOUR life....he's 9, so in about 3-4 yrs he's going to want to spend more time with his friends then you. Soooo, while you still NEED to be an active part in his life, it's time for you to get on with YOURS too, because chances are he's not really going to appreciate all you've done, and start to really being being thankful until about the mid to late 20's when he starts considering, or having, a family of his own..Don't totally wait until then, start now......

Answer 9

You've already done it. You have divorced him. He should no longer have the power to drain you emotionally . Take that power away from him. He no longer deserves to have enough of your attention or time taken out of your life to make you tired for one minute longer. The more time you devote to thinking about his actions while you were together the more time of your life you are giving up your happiness. Take back you 'happy time' and do things you can enjoy. Put it behind you. He knows what he did and will have to live with it always.
Good luck and go to the lite side ; )

Answer 10

I dont know, but things always get better. Believe me, I have had the WORST TIME EVER the past few months!!! I thought that I was going to lose my mind, or I lost it :) Anyways, I am still hanging in there. It's life, love, some up's and some down's but believe me things could be worse. Keep you chin up!