How to care for myself?

Question

Iam good at caring others but not so good at caring for myself.
How can I care more for myself without sounding too selfish to others?

Answer 1

Some of these answers are great.

I find that if you do something little every day for yourself, its easier to see results. You can be good at just about anything if you invest a little every day. Determination and small moves!

And continue to focus on the other people in your life, but realize that you can offer a lot more to everyone you care about if you do what's best for you. That means taking care of yourself first, espescially if there's big stuff you have to do to get everything you want together.

And also - most of the time the only person telling you that you can't do something is you.

You are not selfish. This is not a selfish question to ask..

I know that most of the time it doesn't help so much to be told these things - people need to come their own conclusions. But, I promise, doing what you need to do for yourself, caring for yourself the right way makes a big, big difference, and you do get better at it with time.

Answer 2

Moderation is so important. Your heart is in the right place, but it is tiring you. Instead of dropping your own much needed projects to help another, try just telling the other person that you are free on "such and such" a day and would love to help then. Other's respect that as well. Also, have "MEME" day once a week or so be that an hour, etc. Do what you can for you then.

Answer 3

How can you continue to care for others if you don't take care of the most important person first. There is nothing wrong with being Self-Centered. Centered on your Self. Remember, You cannot give away what you do not have, so take care of YOU so you can take care of others. I learned the hard way. It's no fun. Truly.

Answer 4

Do to yourself what you do to others. In that way you will
be showing others that you respect them as you respect
yourself. If anyone states that you are being selfish then
in effect they will be releasing you from the burden of
making them feel selfish. However, keep dialogue
open and be flexible to adjusting the exchange of
care; it should be as easy to give as to receive.
In other words, give yourself as many opportunities
to provide care as to remove care; be pro actively
considerate, and give others the benefit of the doubt.

Answer 5

Very simple. Give yourself permission to drink from the cup first and then nourish others with the overflow. Remember that if you were sitting on an airplane that was suddenly in trouble and the oxygen masks came down, you should put yours on FIRST - because otherwise you are no good to anyone. Pax - C

Answer 6

A lot of people find that when they give so much of themselves to other people the end up neglecting themselves. You need to tell people in your life that although your willing to help them and you want to do as much as you can, your worn down and need some me time. When you manage your schedule just make sure to pencil in some time you can spend doing what you want. Everyone needs time for relaxation and people will come to understand that you can't devote yourself fully to helping other people until you've had time to replenish your mind, body, and soul.

Answer 7

You are "attached" to caring for others. Until you understand the source of the learned ego behavior and compulsion you will be unable to listen to yourself and do what is right for yourself. Your ego likes being admired for caring or is afraid of what will happen if you stop excessively caring. Maybe both.

Answer 8

i think that u r a great person, this is so nice 2 care about others but also u have 2 care about ur self by thinking previosly about your priorities in this life ,your goals &even your current social level .by identifying these i assure u that u will care more about yourself b-cuz not all people worth 2 care about them ,there is some who use u as a stair 2 reach there recent &remot goals..................

Answer 9

dont let other peoples problems be the source of your life. if its something that you cant control dont worry about it.

dont ignore yourself. take a time out every once in a while

Answer 10

I wouldn't force myself to be something that I am not.