Why do wives cheat on their husbands while they are in Iraq?

Question

Ok I been on tour twice now and lost 2 g/f and now 1 wife. I never cheated on them. they all cheated on me.

Answer 1

Those that cheat feel that Hubby will never know and that their sexual needs must be attended to

Answer 2

I suppose that is not a general question, because all people are not alike! I am a good example, I will be 44 next week, and plan to marry next March. We have not slept together and will not until we are married. I think marriage vows are such an important and specail agreement between 2 people, many people do not agree!
But , if I had to give a straight and common answer it would be that wives do it for the same reason that husbands do!
They can`t keep thier pants on , and the bond of marriage don`t mean no more to them than a few minutes of pleasure! They can`t really love the person they are with or they would not fool around!
Find you a good partner that is not in the military and one that serves God... You won`t go wrong!
Be Blessed, Susan

Answer 3

I'm not saying that it is a good excuse or anything, but I think that some women just get lonley. If your relationship was never strong in the first place, how could you expect someone to wait for a man that they haven't really had a chance love. I would personally like to know Why would anyone cheat on their lovers?
I think your question should be reworded. It isn't only the women that cheat, men also cheat while their women are away. Some people who are away in Iraq may, (I'm not saying they do), but may, cheat while they are away from their lover back home. So cheating is a complex thing, and their really is no answer for it. Again, there are also those people that are just crazy:)

*also, not all women and men cheat while their lovers are away, some really are faithful the entire time.

sincerely

Answer 4

Not every woman cheats, though with your track record it sure may look that way... Maybe the question you should be asking is what is it about you that is attracted to the wrong type of woman? Chances are, if someone's gonna cheat, they're gonna do it whether you are in Iraq or not...so maybe you should explore why it is you have a pattern of involvement with women who do this... seeing a counselor might help. You are probably the "rescuer" type of person who feels drawn to those who seem needy and vulnerable.. just be careful who you give your trust to...some are takers and don't know how to give back anything but misery. Not all women are like this...in fact, most are not. You need to figure out how to identify who is a "healthy" individual, and who is not, before you get involved. With a pattern like this, it would be wise not to involve yourself in a relationship until you've had all the time you need to sort these issues out...or you may find yourself getting hurt yet again. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Okay, first let me just say not all military wives cheat. I know PLENTY who don't and never had. Secondly, unfortunately in a society where everyone is equal (I am not saying it is bad) there seems to be a misconception that you can be "friends" with guys that you find attractive even though you are married. As a result guards are let down around your heart. The wife get lonely and starts depending on this person to give her the things emotionally that her husband usually does and it leads to the next step. I think it is very important for every military spouse to understand this. If they understood this before and didn't have the "I would never do that!" mentality, then they would be a little more vigilant in protecting their marriage. But that is just my opinion.

Answer 6

I recently retired from the military myself and I saw this as more of an epidemic. Every base or post I was stationed at you could see the guys get on the plane or bus and the women head to the NCO club. I think there are several reasons for this (None of them good). 1. After that much time away there is a lack of intimacy that people long for even if it is with someone else. 2. The men left behind see it as an opportunity to pick up no string attached tail. Many of you military buddies probably brag about the women they meet and either have no clue they are married or don't care. 3. The military spouses (men and women) have come to expect their spouses to cheat on them while they are gone ever heard "what goes TDY stays TDY"? So the figure what is good for the goose is good for the gander. There is no solution to this. The only thing I can honestly say is being on the other side of the fence you don't hear about it as much but that just may be that it is not as much as part of the culture as it is in the military. It goes all the way back to dear john letters, it is almost as much of an institution in the military as firing a rifle is. My only suggestion is separate from the military and get a job where you don't travel so much and find a honest woman to settle down with.

Answer 7

.They cheat because they are morally bankrupt.
There are other factors that I was thinking about while reading this question. Most of you guys that join the army are young and marry young and spend so much time in the barracks then home.The young wives do get bored and boredom may be another reason.With 60% against the war and you guys are dying everyday they are a nervous wreck and need an outlet so they cheat. Now not all wives cheat.There are lots of decent army wives.

Answer 8

Cheating is wrong no matter what. There is no excuse for it.
To say he/she is lonely is sorry.
Married or dating shouldn't be taken lightly.
My boyfriend is out of town 3-4 weeks at a time and home for
a few days and gone again. All I think about is him and anticipate his return so we can pick up where we left off.
When we have arguments I don't go out looking for someone
to comfort or pitty me.
When we talk again we make things right and go on with our
lives.
So, to say someone is lonely is a lame excuse and they were
never really serious in the first place.
You will find that certain someone and when you do, you will
know it is the right one.
Good Luck

Answer 9

Long distance marriage is difficult and if a relationship is not really solid then cheating will happen. No doubt on either side should enter into the marriage where this question is concerned. Complete Trust has to be maintained. this is very hard to do for some people and easy for others. Maybe you just picked the wrong type of person for a partner or perhaps they perceive you to be the type of person who will cheat on them.

Answer 10

Not everyone. I have been thru an iraq deployment & a Korea tour.... also lots of field training times during our 10 year relationship in the army (8 of those now married). I have never cheated on my dh. He is my soulmate. If you care about your marriage.... you stick it out and make it thru. it's hard to be away from your loved one... but to me sex wasn't a big issue... missing coming home and talking to my husband about our days and little stuff like that was what i missed most.

Answer 11

Dude I totally feel for you!! I'm not sure why women do that to be honest. I'm a military wife and I would never in a million years cheat on my husband. It's just not right.

You (military guys/gals) are out there fighting for the cause and you should have a FAITHFUL and dedicated spouse/gf/bf at home.

My speculation as to why they cheat is that they don't have the faith, will power or self control to stay committed to you. Shame it happens so often.