Why do i feel so ugly??

Question

im sorry if im like those annoying people but i seriously think that i have BDD, everyone keeps on telling me how beautiful iam but i just dont believe them, i know im stupid for saying this but everytime i go somewhere one minute all the guys are staring and drooling and girls are staring at me too, that makes me gain confidence and then i feel ugly again and no guys look at me, i dont get it i didnt change so how come, one hour they drool, the next hour they take one glance and move on?? maybe i really am hideous no matter how much people say that i look like a gorgeous supermodel, yea right i just wanna die! no mean answers please =[

Answer 1

MAYBE UR UGLY AND UR SO CALLED "FRIENDS" FELL SORRY FOR YOU

Answer 2

Maybe their change in attitude is just responding to how you feel about yourself. A lack of confidence makes people uncomfortable, and they don't know what to say or do. I'm sure that you ARE beautiful, so you have to own it. No one (I'm pretty sure on this one) feels beautiful all the time. The trick is to fake your way through the tough times. I think people respond positively to someone who views themselves positively. Many times, I have watched someone be the most popular person at a party, but not necessarily be the best-looking. Have fun! Part of beauty is outer, but part is inner as well. Start small; tell yourself you look cute today. Act as if that is totally and completely true. Actions are powerful, and others respond to that. Make jokes, laugh, enjoy.

If you really feel upset all the time, maybe you would want to talk to an outside person like a counselor. That might give you a different perspective.

Answer 3

Why are you relying so much on people's perception of who you are on the outside. I'm sure that doesn't even begin to tell who you REALLY are on the inside. Do you really need to have people tell you how beautiful you are to feel worthy? Do you 'need' to have guys 'drool' over you? B/c if you do, then surely you know they aren't drooling over 'you', simply what you look like, and that's pretty shallow and lame. Besides that, if you really need to have people validate you,
it's not BDD, it's self-worth issues.

Instead of focusing on your body, your looks or what people think of your looks, take up a sport, a hobby. Read. Learn. If you don't want to do that, take a walk, meditate, pray. Consider how you can use your gifts that you've been given to better yourself, and the world around you.

The most beautiful women around are strong, smart, and self assured.

Good luck!

Answer 4

It's really simple:
You probably are pretty, and you get attention for being attractive a lot of times, you like it, you get used to the flattery.
Then, when you don't receive as much attention, you miss the feeling.
You probably don't want to hear this, but you seem very vain.
Get over yourself.
I agree with QueenBee: the most beautiful woman is a strong, smart, self-assured one, that doesn't preoccupy herself with herself so much, and instead puts her mind towards inspirations and more actively assertive stuff.
Don't be paranoid. You'll learn to stop thinking about whether people think you are pretty or not. Who you are is not defined by your beauty, nor is it defined by what people think you aren't.
Figure yourself out. Take the time to think.
Hope this helps.
Kind Regards,
Loup

Answer 5

You could be depressed. You sound like you have poor self-esteem.

Make sure you are projecting the image you can live with. Take care of your mind, body and spirit. Surround yourself with people who respect who you are and who respect that some days you don't feel like a supermodel.

Remember that you may be beautiful, but sometimes you have to share the limelight with other beauties. It's okay, because you will discover that when you share your spot in the sun, your light will shine even brighter.

It's empowering to aknowledge someone else's style.

When you look at yourself in the mirror, tell yourself:

"I'm beautiful on the outside AND beautiful on the inside."

Answer 6

You feel ugly because that is your mind set.
If you feel confident with yourself,
you'll actually become even more beautiful.
But, thats not why you should be confident about the way you look.
If people 'drool' at you, without getting to know you, they're no good anyway.
;)
Good luck.
I have the same problem.
<3

Answer 7

Listen to the song of Beautiful by Christina Aguilera and True Colors by Cindy Lauper.

Answer 8

I think when you turn around, they start looking at you again. Its kinda creepy when you know everyone's staring at you though. If it makes you feel any better, I bet I'm uglier than you. People can only tell I'm a girl by my long hair. If I cut my hair short, people might mistake me for a man. I wish I looked like my avatar...

Answer 9

well beauty comes from within its not surface deep..so you have low self esteem but it has nothing to do with how you look..that is just what you are concentrating on....you have other issues in ur life that have contributed to you feeling this way..reach deep inside ur self and do some soul searching

Answer 10

u lack confidence within, no matter how many ppl tell u that ur beautiful it is irrelivent because you cannot find it in your self.....change the things you can, accept the things you cant

Answer 11

Beauty is also a state of mind.