2 people are really attachted to me, they both look at me as the person to go to. Both are convinced that they "need" me. If I am with one, i hurt the other. If i dont do anything with either, i hurt them both for not "dedicating" myself to them, what is the best thing to do. Both people resort to hurting themselves as a source of relief, and i cant let them do that!
2007-05-12 17:25:18 · 13 answers · asked by magnificientred 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is an exercise in maturity. The better question is how did you find yourself in this situation? And, which one do you love? I suspect that you saw this coming quite a bit ago and did not manage it appropriately. Do you have a commitment with either one of them? If they need you, then they may not necessarily put themselves #1, which is a sign of psychological instability, especially when it results in 'hurting' themselves. Your problem will only grow, which will inevitably end if the demise of one or both of them. Time to get control of your wants and needs, which I have not heard a lot of. Does want you want matter?
2007-05-12 17:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dotch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they 'hurt themselves' you probably need to tell someone else. That is way too much responsibility to take on by yourself. Remember that they are responsible for their own actions. Treat them kindly, but I would not start any kind of romantic relationship with someone that dependent. It would amount to bad things for both of you.
2007-05-12 17:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by dancingstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't save the world. Get away from both, they're not your responsibility. Hurting themselves means something is wrong with them. How do you know they won't hurt you if they get angry enough?
2007-05-12 17:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, help these people find help and remember that it is not your job to make yourself unhappy to make them happy. Your in a lose-lose-lose situation here, so my best advice is to be straight-forward and honest, first with yourself, and then with them. Trust me if they do not seek help, you being with them is not going to stop them from hurting them self so understand that if they do it is not your fault. You need offer yourself as a friend, to help them through this situation and begin to build more healthy relationships with them. Then you need to build healthy relationships with healthy people. Don't ditch them but do look out for yourself first. If you cant help yourself you cant help anyone.
2007-05-12 17:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ronnie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it, but I have to be honest with you bud. Let them cut the hell out of themselves and get the hell away from them! Find yourself a healthy female who is mature and self-confident, and you will find true happiness.
2007-05-12 17:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by karenhar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Delete each from your memory. Their actions are for attention, and they will forever cause you misery! They plan to hurt thinking that you will run right back to them. YES, you can let them do that! Why do you think they do it? They know YOU Will NOT let them..Oh stop trying to save these losers!
2007-05-12 17:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by franj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok man...these are your choices buddy
A)be a sissy boy and stay friends with them both
B)date both of them
C) run away to Mexico
D)kill yourself becuase you dont know what letter to choose
E)All of the above
:) good luck my young grasshopper
-Hardcorechick
2007-05-12 17:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know that both of them have feeling for you then you need to be let both of them know how you feel. it not fair
to lead them on. if they are hurting them selves to be with you
then may you need to leave both them along, it sound like
a dangeous game to play. both sound like they need to
get some help, if they are hurting themselves..
2007-05-12 17:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhhmmm this situation is same with me yaar.while 2 girls were loving me alot and they both wanted to marry me but i was different from them i was in love with third girl and i want to marry her so i did one think i just married one of them and i put a condition infront of her that i will marry you but i will marry once more with the third girl and for this one of them was agree and today i am having 2 wifes they both r happy.....be smart in life
2007-05-12 17:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by Prince_Love_Amir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget them[i noe its hard to] try to distract urself wit sports or something, idk...just DETACH urself from them, if they want to hurt themselves, let them, its their problem, not urs...
2007-05-12 17:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋