I am hurt inside, i cry when he is not around. (I am not fat) he always try to find a reason to put me down. I dont like to say things back to him, because i dont like arguments and i have a 8 months old baby girl.
2007-05-12 17:18:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wants to keep you down where he has complete control over you, that is why as soon as you feel good about yourself and he sees your self esteem shining through, he`s right there putting you down again. You have to be more assertive and fight back, you have to let him know this is not the way you want to live and be treated, if you don`t talk back you`re sending the message it`s OK for him to treat you like this......it is up to you to establish the rules. Make it clear, you do not accept that kind of treatment period otherwise you will turn your back and find happiness somewhere else.
2007-05-12 17:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that you know will shut him up. A one liner or something. My brother was 186 pounds at 5'2'' and 14. His best friend called him fat all the time. He lost 100 pounds in two years and became belemic and anorexic. He went to rehab for eating disorders and risked his life multiple times. Moral of the story is don't let anyone put you down even if it is your best friend/husband. Let him know how you really feel before he makes you do something that you will regret. Show that asshole who's boss!
2007-05-12 19:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. Absolutely Nothing. You cant talk to him about it because it might start a confrontation. You cant leave him or take a break exactly, sence you two have a kid. Or maby hes not the father and you Dont want to argue in front of the kid. Sometimes the only thing you can do is nothing. That seems like the best thing to do.
2007-05-12 17:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jay-V-Dub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and start with the first sentence in your question's additional detail: "I'm hurt inside. I cry when he's not around" I know it WILL be hard to do, but is it any worse than what you feel without doing it? Maybe try writing down what you want to say before you say it...maybe build your confidence.
2007-05-12 17:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am only 14 so you might not take this very seriously but, it is going to be hard for you and your husband if you don't get help i think the two of you should go to a counsellor or something to see what makes him want to put you down so much it is not acceptable for him to do that to you after marriage and conceiving his child. whatever you do try hard not to divorce for the sake of your baby, my parents divorced when i was 2 and it is very hard on me that is has been so long and they still cant get along very well, do what you can and good luck
2007-05-12 17:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by beach_bum92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to pack it up and run..as fast as you can. Your husband is controlling you, more each day, and it is just starting. He will begin to cut you off from your friends, then all your family,. accuse you of being unfaithful at every turn, and eventually, this will turn into beatings. It has just begun. He is living in great insecurity, and you cannot help him here...he needs professional help, and you are not equipped to give it to him...it will take years, and only if he wants to change. Run, dear, take that baby and run, divorce, get child support and look elsewhere for a loving man who supports you at every turn, not humiliates you and destroys your self confidence. Leave now while you can, for in a few months, you will not have the confidence to do so. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE and the life of your CHILD. I am not kidding one bit.
2007-05-12 17:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
My husband loves me very much and would never call me fat. It's demeaning. Better have a nice long talk with mister big mouth!
2007-05-12 17:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok one u just had a baby....the only reason hes talking u down is to make himself feel good, & to make u feel like sh*t soo u dont think ur good bout urself & get hiton by other guys.....u need to talk to him & let him know that its really hurting u.....if he doesnt stop get out...cuz it will start with just fat for now & then u dont know how fare hes going to take it...good luck & god bless......but plezz do talk to him & let him know he needs to stop
2007-05-12 17:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by ~i love my boys~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your beautiful already.hes insecure.just because you cry that doesn't mean your weak.you know right from wrong and hes wrong.let him know that you are to be respected.try your best not to cry when you tell him.cry when hes not around and soon you will have not one tear drop for him again.
2007-05-12 17:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to make sure he controls you and the situation...the more you put up with it...the more power you are giving him. You want it to stop...Tell him you DON"T LIKE IT>
2007-05-12 17:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋