I am in love with the most wonderful man. He is kind, considerate, caring, loving, attentive, etc. I have never loved anyone or anything more. He plans to ask me to marry him this year and I am freaking out! Is this normal?? I am 32yrs old and have never wanted to get married because I hadn't found anyone that touched my soul. This man is my soulmate. Please offer advice on how I can overcome my phobia and be the best wife possible to him. Thank you so much!
2007-05-12 17:17:28 · 11 answers · asked by SanFran 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you getting fraked out?
If you analyze your fears and defeat them, you will have a great wedding day
2007-05-12 17:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off Congratulations. Being Married is a wonderful and scary at the same time. Like they say it can be the best of times as well as the worst of them.
It's normal to have a few jitters about it. You are about to make one of the biggest decisions/changes in your adult life. If you are certain in your heart and mind that this man is the one for you. Then just give it time, as your become accustomed to the idea it will get better. When you have mutual trust, respect and admiration for each other you can overcome most anything
Make sure that your aren't worried because there are "unspoken" things that need to be resolved. ie: children (how they will be raised), religion, your families, even holidays. If you've covered all these things then you should be fine. Just remember the first couple of years are the hardest, don't get so caught up in being married that you forget to live in the Now and enjoy those moments that made you fall for each other.
Good luck
2007-05-12 17:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a good man. Although I'm slightly confused by you stating the he PLANS to ask you to marry him this year. I'm not big on tradition, but if you two are that much in love, then why wait on him to ask you for your hand in matrimony? Just ask him to marry you instead of waiting. As for your phobia of being married, well seeking out your clergy of preference for some premarital counseling might be an option. Unfortunately, there are a ton of books about marriage, but no one single book can solve every ones problems. But you know, the journey through times good and bad as one couple, is what marriage is about. Also, it doesn't hurt to have a little faith in yourself and the man God has brought into your life to make a happy wife. Best Wishes!
2007-05-12 17:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Alluminoty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of it skill particularly some issues in distinctive situations, yet by making use of and enormous i could say that it merely skill that those men could not be very self-reflective, and have hardship analyzing their own emotions and reactions to their environment. they don't seem to be "in touch with themselves", or something to that quantity. they could have a undeniable feeling in the direction of something, yet while they attempt and interpret what this sense could mean, they hit a brick wall; the extra complicated the sensation, and the extra grave the end results of coming up a "incorrect" determination, the extra uncertain and hesitant they substitute into interior the face of it. additionally, maximum of people are finding for ensures that a undeniable determination is a sturdy one. while they commence understanding that, most of the time, there at the instant are no ensures - that they ought to proceed blindly, in essence - they falter, and don't want to take the threat, regardless of the rewards could be waiting on the different end. i think of, a super form of this way of stuff is going on in making a determination to marry somebody. There at the instant are no ensures that that's the "suitable" you are going to do, and no person you even meet is definitely "suitable", so often times human beings have hardship accepting that their determination isn't something extra advantageous than an knowledgeable wager, based on the evidence that has been presented to them. properly, often times they do exactly not want to do it. it could ensue too!
2017-01-09 18:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by josephson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask complete strangers for advice on something as personal as marriage , you had best rethink the whole deal. Fear should be the last emotion you should be experiencing....
2007-05-12 17:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by shelleyfort 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a huge step, even if it is with our soul mate.
Once he asks you, you will be is such bliss.
It is the waiting that makes you anxious.
Hang in there, you are not alone :-)
2007-05-12 17:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by lami_by_design 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try. You're life will change, and that's probably what you're afraid of, but if he's the only man you can ever see yourself with for the rest of your life, you have to try... for both of you.
2007-05-12 17:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by abandgeek88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll get over the jitters. You found your dream man, now forget your nightmares.
2007-05-12 17:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
relax read your question and you already answered your question get married and live happily ever after ... good luck and congrats on the upcoming wedding
2007-05-12 17:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by lcox65 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
allow yourself 2 be loved,it will enhance your life not ,take away,think what your gaining not what you" think "you will be losing,congratulations
2007-05-12 17:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by simplyred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋